Many medical articles refer to hypertension or even obesity as society’s “silent killer”. In reality, depression can be just as deadly and in my opinion should be referred to as an “unvoiced killer”. What’s the difference between “silent” and “unvoiced”? Well “silent” can be defined as declining to speak or remaining quiet whereas “unvoiced” can be defined as the INABILITY to speak; the difference is one’s ability.
Depression may be perceived as a simple or ridiculous emotion by those who haven’t been experienced it themselves, however the saddened mood is more than tears or frowns, it truly is an illness. Depression is powerful as it can deter an individual’s appetite to eat and even create thoughts for someone to feel as if the only way to be free and relieved is to take their own life.
Speaking from experience, depression is difficult to explain hence “unvoiced” and only a victim can truly understand the plead of another victim. The feelings of not being able to smile or crying daily can be uncontrollable and exhausting, causing a deeper depression.
My advice for those who have been acquainted with depression is to hold on and find some higher power. I understand everyone is not religious, however as simple human beings, we only have so much emotional strength. In dealing with depression, the most helpful resource is being able to vent your worries and insecurities without being laughed at or judged. Sometimes such venting is most effective through prayer or even meditation rather than to one of our own.
A second tip is for you to accept the fact that no individual can please everyone. Take the suffocating pressure off yourself by understanding that we are not superhuman creatures; We will make mistakes and have vulnerable moments in life. Its okay to fall if you learn from it, don’t allow depression to sneak up on you during hard times. You must keep your focus on something higher than yourself because you probably don’t recognize or trust yourself in a depressed mood.
“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end.”
― Elizabeth Wurtzel, Prozac Nation
“There is no point treating a depressed person as though she were just feeling sad, saying, ‘There now, hang on, you’ll get over it.’ Sadness is more or less like a head cold- with patience, it passes. Depression is like cancer.”
― Barbara Kingsolver, The Bean Trees
–Dominique English (MYGirls Event Coordinator)