MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Appearance & Personal Hygiene (Part 1: Personal Hygiene)

Hello young girls!!

So as I previously stated in the introduction to the “MYGirls” Blog Series, we will post various blog entries over the next few months.  At first, it was stated that the blog entries would be posted however long it may take . . . and we realize that THAT needs to change.  From now on, all MYGirls blogs will be scheduled for Friday evening, at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time.  This makes for the perfect opportunity for you lovely readers to settle in from school, and take in a blog or two (or how ever many interest you), along with a healthy snack!

We have already touched on the topic of Social Media Etiquette:  how to conduct yourself via cyberspace, and how to make your online profile represent the real you in a positive manner.  Our next MYGirls topic, is Appearance & Personal Hygiene . . . which I have decided to break into two parts (and our blogger @ is ideal to follow for beauty & skin care tips, along with our bloggers @ who recently posted an entry pertaining to age-appropriate attire)! Remember young girls, these blog entries are here for you to read while you are navigating through teenage years, in school or at home, and will serve as helpful guides filled with knowledge, typically gained from experience, to assist you as you leave your mark in the free world of “cyberspace.”

And now, let’s talk about . . . Personal Hygiene! Bedtime collage


At this point, I am sure that many of you are back in session for the 2014-2015 school year, and have gotten pretty well-adjusted to your classes.  Many of you have reunited with old friends from last school year, and/or have managed to make new friends to begin the current school year.  Many of you have broken off into your friends’ circles, whether big or small, sharing commonalities like favorite colors, favorite “girly” products (lip gloss, sweet-smelling lotions & body sprays, hair pins, etc), favorite courses & teachers, mutual friends, likes & dislikes, and the list goes on.


Let’s visit the favorite “girly” products.  While our amazing blogger Emily Jean goes over a few products via her usage and recommendation, I would like to touch on further etiquette behind using these products . . .



Ask yourselves, “what are all the products I like to use?”  We females love to be clean.  We love our shampoos & conditioners, cleansers & moisturizers, applicators & removers, and so on.  When we see a product, especially if it is new or has bright packaging, we begin to hear the bells & whistles that urge us to PURCHASE.  And, after the purchase, we like to show our girlfriends our new findings.

What usually comes right after the big reveal to the girlfriends?  The girlfriends want to use your new products.


Sharing is indeed caring, and we always want to be nice and show ourselves friendly to those whom we consider our friends.  We like to trade things with our friends.  We want our girlfriends to experience the same joyous feeling(s) we get after opening, trying, and anticipating results of a new product.  However, young girls, the passing of germs also goes into Personal Hygiene.  When we carelessly allow for our friends to make usage of our products on their faces & bodies, that we use on our own faces & bodies, we open the door to germs from others being left behind in our product containers (especially if the product(s) used do(es) not come from a pump dispenser 15ozPumpDispr10053558_x ), and possible skin irritations, allergic reactions, break-outs, and infections are sure to rise.  Now don’t get me wrong, this is NOT to say that you should treat your friends like they’re walking diseases because they are not!  il_570xN.215889927 WE LOVE OUR FRIENDS!! By now, everyone should know how to be clean:  how to bathe at least once a day and pay particular attention to vital areas, how to brush their teeth how ever many times in a day (as needed or mandated by a dentist), how to maintain & style their hair (or go to a hair salon), how to wash our hands before leaving a public restroom or handling someone else’s food.  However, it is imperative to understand that as we are all friends, we may like the same things but we do not DO the same things.  We do not all shampoo & condition our hairs the same, we do not cleanse & moisturize the same, we do not use the same products by routine (therefore using a new product, even on the strength of a friend’s recommendation or new purchase, could affect your level of personal hygiene).  We may like the same foods but our diets are different, and our bodies digest food, shed skin, grow hair, and perspire differently.

Imagine how unsanitary it can be, if you were to use the lip gloss of a friend who recently had a fever blister . . .

Imagine how unsanitary it can be, if you were to wash your face with the same cloth of a friend who recently played a sport, and returned sweaty . . .

Imagine how unsanitary it can be, if you were to brush your hair with the same brush of a friend who hasn’t washed her hair in about a week . . .


Our bodies respond differently to the air we breathe, the water we drink, the food we eat, the water we bathe in, the products we apply & remove, and the surrounding atmosphere in its entirety.  What your friend can handle, you might not be able to.  And vice-versa.

While we love each other, we must remember to protect ourselves . . . sometimes from each other.  Let’s be mindful of the personal items we share; our products that we allow our friends to use.  Young Girls, let’s be clean and sanitary!!

Part 2:  Appearance . . . coming next Friday.  Stay tuned!


Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

MYGirls: Blog Series Update

Hi there young girls!!


As you may have already read, GU4AP’s “MYGirls” Program has implemented the “MYGirls” Blog Series, a collection of entries zeroing in on issues that affect young girls, ages 8-18.  The “MYGirls” Blog Series will offer sound advice by illustrating fictitious scenarios that may be familiar in the lives of our girls, as well as personal experience(s) from our Mentors.  The blog series will also open the opportunity for discussions between our Mentors and Mentees, to hopefully break down any fear or shyness when approaching certain subject matter.


At first, we had no set time over the next few months (or however much time we figured it would take) as to when the blogs would be posted for viewing . . . and we realized that THAT needed to change, into a more structured method.  That being said, the “MYGirls” Blog Series will be issued every Friday, at 6:00pm, and will contain blog entries based on the following subjects:


  • Social Media Etiquette
  • Appearance & Personal Hygiene (now broken into two parts)
  • Academics
  • Leadership & Self-Esteem
    –Competition, “Frenemies”
  • Safety
    –Rape, Self-Defense
  • Health


There will be certain blog entries specifically for our girls, ages 12-18 (for these entries, we do advise having a parent or legal guardian present, to read along with you):


  • Commitment, Loyalty, and Relationships
    –Contraception, Sex
  • Health


Today’s blog will be Part 1:  Personal Hygiene, at 6:00pm this evening.


We at Girls Unite 4 A Purpose (GU4AP) want you young girls to know that we are here for you.  We know that you may have questions, concerns, and worries, and we hope that the information we share will give you insight, along with the courage to press forward through life’s challenges.


You have a safe space in the “MYGirls” Program . . . girls-hanging-out-590x295 . . . consider this your 2nd home!!


–Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

Effective Studying Tips For College


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Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you ladies are doing well! I wanted to share with you all some great effective studying tips. Learning how to study can be tricky, but with the right tips and ticks, you can conqueror your studying woes. Effective studying habits are pretty much the essential key to having a successful college career. So here are some great studying tips.



Make a Study Guide

Whether or not your professor or teacher gives you a study guide for an exam, making a study guide is very helpful when studying for tests. Go through the textbook, notes, and any other material and write down any information that you think may be on the test such as important concepts, definitions, and formulas.

Make Flash Cards

Flash cards are helpful tools in remembering vocabulary, formulas, and key concepts. They are also easy to carry around with you so you can review them anytime. Also, highlighters works wonders when it comes to studying information that is important.

Quiz Yourself

To ensure that you are prepared for your test, make a mock quiz to test how well you know the material. Write down a list of keywords or questions and make sure to leave room underneath each one. Then, pretend that you’re taking the test and write down as much as you can.

Set Time Goals

Setting time goals for yourself will help make sure that you stay on track especially when you have time constraints.

Remember to Take Breaks

Don’t try and cram all the information that you are reading and don’t try to cram it all in the day before or day of your test or exam! You need to take short breaks to allow your brain to process and retain the information. Otherwise, you may confuse yourself or forget something you have already studied. Taking a 10-15 min study break is pretty much standard, you don’t want to take too long of a break because you’ll never get back to studying!

Don’t Study Alone

If you find that you can’t study in total silence then play some music on low but if you find yourself becoming distracted by it then find another method. If studying alone works for you then great! But there is nothing wrong with scheduling and meeting up with some of your classmates to study together.

Get lots of sleep

Make sure that you are getting a full night of sleep. By getting a full night of sleep, you are usually more alert, more focused and learn things easier. Try to keep your sleep schedule as consistent as possible.


Everyone is different, what may work for one may not work for another. So find what works for you, everyone can develop effective study habits. Also,  remember to not stress yourself out about anything. If you don’t do as well on your first test, quiz, or exam its okay. Develop a study habit and you’ll do great the next time! Hope you all find these tips useful and helpful!!


Be Blessed


An open letter to all incoming college freshman


Greetings and Blessings!!

Hope you ladies are doing well!! I hope for those who have started school this week that you are getting comfortable with getting familiar with your classes, professors/teachers, and the campus itself. For those who are looking to start next week, I hope you are prepared and focused and excited for this new adventure. The first couple of weeks can be rather nerve racking because you are going all over campus trying to find this building or that building where your class is being held in. If you have a map of the campus, I advise that you use it so that you can familiarize yourself with where the different buildings are on your college campus. Also, there is nothing wrong with asking another student or faculty member where a particular building is. There are many welcome back activities that will be taking place during this time as well. These welcome back activities are a great way to meet and greet and interact with fellow incoming freshman and upper classmen as well.

Take and embrace these first couple of weeks in because once they are over it will be time for you to focus on your schoolwork. Your studies are important and it is important that you find a balance that works for you of dedicating time to study and also find some time to have fun. Yes, you will have to put your phone away while you are in class. There is nothing that you will miss on social media for that time you are in class! No professor or teacher likes when a student(s) is on their phone while they are giving a lecture! You may think your professor or teacher doesn’t notice when you check your phone but they do! Don’t skip class no matter how boring it may be, if you miss a day you miss so much! Don’t stress yourself out too much and you will make mistakes and it is okay! This is your time to find out who you are and for you to embrace the uncertainties and let them help guide you to your inner self and your true calling. You don’t have to have everything figured out now and no one excepts you to. So take these next four or five years of your college experience and embrace the challenges, struggles, ups and downs, good and bad, and let it develop you into the person that God wants you to be. I pray that you all have great first semester and I look forward to continue writing about the college experience.

Be Blessed


Age Appropriate Back to School Fashion Outfits for Young Girls…

Happy Fashion Friday young ladies,

I wanted to share some cute but fashionable items that are age appropriate for 11-18 year old girls. Hear me out, I know you like shopping at stores where they have clothing for women that shows off curves and body parts but don’t you want to be respected?

You’re probably thinking, “I’m so turned off by what she’s saying now” no but really, your clothing says a lot before you can even say hello or have a formal conversation with someone, so let’s either reevaluate the items in our closets or rethink items we plan to purchase for the school year.

It’s been brought to my attention that many of you have started school and probably think this couldn’t be useful for you, but in fact it is…Let us look at t-shirts

Shirts with words, messages, pictures and if you can see through them:

-Is it positive?

-Does it give off the wrong message?

-Is what is on my shirt disturbing?

-Can you see my bra?

Now let’s look at outfits:

A great Fall look

Great outfit for high school girls

Dance attire

You can still look cute and dress your age ladies…

We hope you, and maybe parents enjoyed this post as well. We aren’t saying we are experts at styling young girls, but what we’ve shown here are great alternatives and ideas that you can take…

Campus Involvement


Greetings and Blessings!!!

Hope you ladies are doing well and are getting prepared to start school!! In this post I would like to talk to you about becoming involved in extra curricular activities. Getting involved on campus will help you become familiar with your respective college or university and the surrounding community. There are a number of different benefits associated with becoming involved in college activities. The most essential and personal one would be connecting. You will be able to forge many friendships with individuals. You will meet and interrelate with people from all walks of life not only from your school but other schools as well. Also, you will be able to interact and network with diverse professionals within their field and other supportive fields. Being able to make these connections will help you feel included as well as being exposed to the diverse culture, opinions, and opportunities. Getting involved will also be beneficial in terms of that it will enrich your college experience. The things that you learn while participating in extracurricular activities can have a significant impact on your college life and on your future career.

Another benefit would be of course having fun! The main purpose in attending school is for you to further your education but it is important to find some form of release from all that studying because it can become overwhelming. So, getting involved with extracurricular activities and having fun will help you relax and assuage any anxiety about your classes.



Ways to Get Involved 

First, you must look at your planner to make sure there is time to devote to possible activities. It is important that you  avoid over extending yourself to prevent undue stress and/or making a commitment that you are unable to fulfill.

Second, you can go to the Student Activities Office to find out the different organizations and programs existing on campus. You can become part of a sports team, member of a dance team, representatives in the student government (SGA), members or officers of a social club, debate team, etc.

Third, attend club fairs and other events to learn as much as possible about the different organizations and activities to make sure these are a good fit. Choose things that appeal to you and that may be of use later once you graduate. Get all the information you can about the organization or activity before committing or signing up with that group!!

Many of these organizations require you to keep and maintain a certain GPA in order to join and to remain as members therefore, you can’t afford to ignore your studies. It is important that you find the balance between school work and extracurricular activities. There is a benefit in taking a total break from studying it helps you become refreshed and get back to studying with more energy. It is not mandatory to become involved in something during your college years. But it is helpfully and it could open the door to many opportunities and possibilities. Hope you find this post helpful!!!


Be Blessed






Greetings and Blessings!!!

Hope you ladies are doing well!! In this post I wanted to talk about the one thing that most of us don’t like to do and that is budgeting. Budgeting requires a lot of discipline and in the long run it will be of great help to you as you get older. When I went away to school I honestly did not use my money wisely as I should have. If I was going to the mall or out to eat with friends, I didn’t pay attention to what and how I was spending the money I had. I did pay for it sometimes in terms of if I needed something I didn’t have the finances to get it. I learned the important difference between “wants” versus “needs”. Being a young adult now, its still challenging because sometimes I see something and in my head I’m like I gotta have it but I know deep down I don’t need said item(s) right at that moment.



Setting and sticking to a monthly budget can give you peace of mind. With a budget in place, you can more effectively manage your money, save for large expenses, and prepare for emergencies. Keep in mind that even though a budget is there to help you it is important  that you don’t stress out over it. This is something that you will work and gradually learn about as you get older. It’s almost impossible to follow a budget 100% of the time. No matter how disciplined you may be, you may overspend now and again. Forgive yourself for any small errors. So here are some tips that can help you when it comes to having a budget.





1. Budget your money. First, assess how much you’re going to have available for the school year (you can budget by semester or quarter if you like). This includes the amount you’re starting with from savings and financial aid, as well as the amount you’ll bring in each week through work study, a part-time job or other means. Then divide the total by the number of weeks in the term, and that gives you a good idea of how much money you can spend each week.

But remember that not every week will be exactly the same. One week you may spend less than the allotted amount. Another week you may end up spending a little extra. That’s okay as long as it averages out correctly over the course of the term.

2. Track your spending. Write down how much you spend each week and what you spend it on. This will help you assess where your money is going and give you ideas on where to cut back.

3. Be realistic. As a student on a limited budget, you are not going to be able to afford some of the things you WANT. Most luxuries are going to be few and far between, and some may be eliminated completely. It is important to know and understand that buying one thing means you can’t buy something else, so necessities take priority.

4. Use credit cards only for emergencies. Credit cards can be great to have but in the end it can be just about every college students down fall. There will be times were the temptation to splurge on a new outfit or have a night out with your friends crosses your mind. Especially, if you’ve been living frugally for months at a time. Having a credit card and just swiping it away makes doing very easy! Even though it doesn’t FEEL like you’re paying for them.

Truth be told, you are paying for them. You’re paying INTEREST on the amount you spend. There is a vast majority of college students that end up with student loan debt. Once you graduate six months later it is time to start paying back Sallie Mae or whoever you took out a loan with. Student loan debt PLUS Credit card debt is not a pretty picture!! So if you have a credit card or thinking about applying for one, use it only when necessary.

5. Spread out what expenses you can. The beginning of the academic year tends to bring several large expenses all at once: tuition, fees, meal plan, etc. But some costs can be spread out over the course of the term or the year.

6. If you need help, ask for it. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, attempts to budget your money may not go as you had hoped. When this happens, there is a tendency to avoid asking for help, and you try to work the situation out on your own. Unfortunately, this usually leads to more problems and unnecessary debt. So if you find yourself in serious trouble, go to your family or someone whom you trust. By doing so, you are solving and managing the problem early as well as learning from your mistakes.

So these are just a few tips that can help you when it comes to starting and creating a budget. It’s not the end of the world if it doesn’t go as plan. It’s a learning experience and the more you do it the better you’ll become at it. Hey, I’m still learning (lol) Hope you ladies find this post helpful and useful!!!


Be Blessed



MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Social Media Etiquette

Hello young girls!!

So as I previously stated in the introduction to the “MYGirls” Blog Series, we will post various blog entries over the next few months (or how ever long it may take), on topics like Social Media Etiquette, Appearance & Personal Hygiene (and our blogger Emily Jean is ideal to follow for beauty & skin care tips), Academics (our blogger Christina is ideal to follow for education tips), Leadership & Self-Esteem, and more! These blog entries are here for you to read while you are still on summer break (as well as while in school), will serve as helpful guides filled with knowledge, typically gained from experience, to assist you as you leave your mark in the free world of “cyberspace.”


Social media are very powerful tools used to make personal, political, social, fashion, religious, educational, and familial statements . . . through a wide range of discuss topics. All forms of social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Youtube, etc.) allow users to reach out to a large group of people, depending on the sizes of their friendslists, in a short period of time. And depending on the size of a user’s following, said statements can be made on either a national or international level. Imagine the amount of social power!!

The power of social media is so strong, that it can make you . . . or break you. The power of social media can build up or tear down your reputation. The power of social media can leave others thinking your are pretty awesome, or believing things about you that go against your character.


Have you taken the time to assess what’s in your social media?  Our online profiles allow us to display parts of us that we want others to see and know.  However, some people might gather different messages–you want people to see or know vs. who and what you really are–and the confusion eventually makes its way to the surface.  And that is how others form their perceptions of you.

So, what kind of social media users are you in your friendslists?

  1. Do you know the Over-Sharer?  She’s the one who shares every waking moment of her life, from the time she yawned when she first woke up in the morning, to the color of toothpaste she uses, to the temperature she set the oven on to bake biscuits for breakfast.  Note how those three examples are just in the morning . . . because the Over-Sharer will also have a list of afternoon movements, and evening step-by-step commentary.  People are interested in current happenings, but nobody needs to know how many steps there are from your bedroom to the bathroom, or any other behind-the-scenes footage of things majority of your friends do everyday.
  2. Do you know the Semi-Celebrity?  She’s the one who makes it a point to share celebrity-oriented status updates.   She may or may not do any real work in the entertainment industry, but that does not stop her from blasting her industry involvement to her world of viewers.  She wants to feel important, like a hot topic (perhaps influenced by gossip media), so majority of her posts are of pictures posed with celebrities, parties, events at which she managed to walk to red carpet, and anything else that can persuade people to identify her with Hollywood.  She looks for haters for self-validation.
  3. Do you know the Bragger?  She, similar to the Semi-Celebrity, makes it a point to post everything new in her life, especially expensive purchases.  She will make sure to post pictures of the new items purchased by her, her parents, or even her boyfriend:  wardrobe selections, expensive designer labels, new or newly-washed car (particularly if she or someone in her life has managed to purchase a Mercedes, BMW, Lexus, or any other luxury vehicle), her new hairstyle, her new makeup collection or makeup job done by the makeup artist from the makeup store.  Unfortunately, her aim is to build herself up by making others jealous or envious, with various status updates and photos uploaded in the spirit of “I have one, you don’t.”  She, like the Semi-Celebrity, also looks for haters for self-validation.
  4. Do you know the Pessimist?  She is the one who sees everything negatively in life.  Nothing positive comes from her.  Instead of being happy for waking up in the morning, she is irritated that she woke up a few minutes before her alarm.  Instead of being happy about heading to work, she is frustrated about traffic (something completely out of her control).  Every post has #FML, “forget my life” (even though the F word isn’t exactly “forget”) attached at the end.  A neighbor is always bothering her.  A family member is always getting on her nerves.  Everyone is hating on her.
  5. Do you know the Argument Lover?  She’s the one who debates every political bill, every current event, every news story, every historical fact, every theory, every social construct, every double standard, every form of racism, prejudice, discrimination, and social injustice, for the sake of forcing her views onto others with no regard to differences in views and opinions.  She does not rest until everyone with whom she is arguing (though she might think she is “debating”), sees her point, and she does not understand how people are allowed to “agree to disagree.”  She may feel threatened by someone who does not share the same views and opinions as hers, and quickly shuts downs if she cannot dominate a discussion.
  6. Do you know the Over-Sexual Attention Seeker?  She is the one who dresses way too sexy (short shorts, tight skirts, dresses & jeans, low-cut tops exposing her cleavage, wearing only bra & panties, etc.), not appropriate for her age, and takes suggestive photos to upload in order to get attention from boys.  She sees how some women conduct themselves in entertainment media (music videos, magazines, TV shows, movies), and attempts to emulate what she sees, because she feels that is what gets boys to like her or find her attractive.  Unfortunately she gets her self-image of beauty from the way others see her . . . sexually.
  7. Do you know the Know-It-All?  She is the one who feels as though she has the answer for everything, much like the Argument Lover.  With the exception of things that have only one right answer, she feels as though her answers to various topics are the only answers that anyone can, or should, be able to think of.  She always “knows” about everything, has seen and done everything, and can give you a better recount of everything than if you were to try anything yourself.


I think at some point, everyone can find at least one person in their friendslist who fits into one of these descriptions.  Be sure to assess your friends, and then see about yourself.  Check how YOU utilize social media.  Why?  Because people are watching, and not just your friends.  Your family members are watching.  Your teachers, school officials, and/or coaches could be watching.  The founders and presidents of your clubs & organizations could be watching.  If any of you managed to get summer jobs, your bosses could be watching, and many companies will hire or fire you based on your online profiles.  Be mindful that you could very well fall into one of these descriptions.  From experience, I’ve fallen into at least three of these categories before!!

Use social media to your advantage.  Make the most of your online profiles, in a positive light.  Let people know you know goodness, not drama.  Let people see you as a person to whom they can come for inspiration.  You’re an awesome young girl . . . show the world!!

-Kahlelah, “MYGirls”