MYEvents: Thursday, January 8, 2015 – Wednesday, January 14, 2015

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Hey there, bright young girls!!

 

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

 

Happy-new-year-kids-drawing-2015 HAPPY NEW YEAR, YOUNG GIRLS!!! It has been quite a while since our last posting of upcoming events for 2014 . . . and now we are back, revamped and ready!  Starting today, MYEvents will feature events of which GU4AP will either be an attendee or active participant.  While we want to support others . . . we strongly believe that the highest level of support begins at home base.  As we grow within, we also grow with others!!

MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!

 

 

ON-GOING EVENTS FOR 2015 – 

 

 

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Moreno Valley Unified School District is seeking a Parent Ambassador.  As a Parent Ambassador, you will promote a positive relationship between parents, community, and the school district.  Among many other important duties, you will also encourage parental involvement in school, such as attending Open House, Back-to-School Night, etc.
Stipend:  $300/month
Workdays:  Days & times will vary
Deadline:  Open until filled
Requirements:  Completed application, two (2) signed letters of recommendation, copy of driver’s license

For more information, contact Human Resources Division, (951) 571-7500, ext. 17575
Website:  www.mvusd.net

Moreno Valley Unified School District
25634 Alessandro Blvd.
Moreno Valley, CA 92553

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Help Youth Through Golf is offering free weekly golf clinics for children ages 5 to 17, held at Kelly Park, every Saturday, 1:00-3:00pm, in Compton, CA.
NO EXPERIENCE NECESSARY.
For more information please contact Luis Batson, (562) 233-9429

Website:  HYTG.org
Facebook.com/hytg2011

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FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003

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Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!

-Kahlelah, MYGirls

 

Finishing The Semester Off Strong

 

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Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you all are doing well! I hope that you all had a great and wonderful time for Thanksgiving! I hope that you all that were home for the holiday took the time to cherish the moments that was spent with loved ones. If you didn’t make it home I hope that whoever you spent the day with that you also cherished the moments that were made. We should be thankful EVERYDAY not just one day out of the year! The school year is winding down and the semester will be done with for the year. Final exams will be coming up within the first few weeks of December. I hope and pray that you all do well on your tests, exams, final projects, etc.

I hope that you all have become adjusted to being college and have gotten to experience some great moments from the first half of your freshman year. I hope that you all continue to work in finding yourselves and feeling out what you want to do in life. It is important to take this time of your life and figure out what you want to do. This is not about what others want for you. It is great to have the opinion or advice of others. But it is important to remember to follow what is in YOUR heart.

No matter what obstacle or setback that you have faced thus far continue to press and push forward towards your goals. There will be days where you think, is any of this worth it and there are times where you are wanting to give up and give in. But don’t let what comes your way stop you. Life is all about the journey so take every opportunity that is being offered and pray and seek the guidance of God about it. Keep him first in all that you do and connect yourselves with individuals that will push you, pray for you, encourage you, inspire you, etc. Be who you are meant to be and not what the world wants you to be!

Be Blessed

Christina

 

College Post Check In

 

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Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you all are doing well! I hope that you all are enjoying your first semester at college and that you have become adjusted to the college life. I just wanted to check in with you all and to encourage you all to keep pressing and keep pushing through. Yes, being in college you get to experience the time of your life. But on the other hand, it can be a bit overwhelming along with stressful. I hope that you all have been checking out the previous post in learning how to deal and cope with managing stress while in college and learning how to develop effective studying skills when it comes to testing taking for your midterms and finals. We only have two more weeks left in this month and November and the Thanksgiving Holiday will be here before we know. Then it will be time to prepare and take final exams come December then the first half of the semester will be in the books. I hope that you all are taking the time in learning about yourselves as well as embracing and finding out who you are. This is the best time to find your path and find what you are passionate about. No one is expecting you to be perfect or have a perfect GPA or pass every test, exam, or quiz. Don’t let others have this high expectation of you and don’t put that on yourself. Embrace and enjoy your time in college because it is preparing you for the real world. I hope you all have a great and blessed week!!

 

Be Blessed

Christina

MYEvents: Thursday, October 2, 2014 – Wednesday, October 8, 2014

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Hey there, bright young girls!!

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!

 

 

Saturday, October 4, 2014 – 

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Inspirational community leaders will come together with Charlotte’s Korner, Inc., to encourage, empower, and uplift our youth, as various issues concerning our teens will be discussed.  CLICK HERE for more information, or how to become a volunteer, vendor, or guest speaker.  (I will be one of the guest speakers, so please come in support of GU4AP!)

 

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Stylists from various places will come together to battle for 1st Place.  Come to experience the fusion of fashion and fun.  The perfect “Mommy & Me” Day!! Visit HERE for more information.

 

 

Thursday, October 16, 2014 – 

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ATTENTION ALL PARENTS, this one’s for you.  Fashion models and designers from across America will gather together for a night of glitz, glam, and good entertainment!  Bring two canned goods to help with the LA Runway Food Drive!!  Email anerrickmanagement@yahoo.com for more information.

 

 

Saturday, October 18, 2014

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Meet wonderful spiritual women as they gather together to examine & tackle stereotypes, lift the burdens of limitation, and offer a insight into the life challenges that women face on a daily basis.  REGISTER NOW to catch Early Bird registration.

 

 

Friday, November 14th, 2014 – 

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Dynamic leaders will be honored and celebrated on this night of wonder.  SEE INFO Here for sponsorship packages.

 

 

 

ON-GOING EVENTS FOR 2014 – 

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FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003

 

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Showroom G is a creative talent firm geared towards pushing your brand out to the community, in the most elaborate ways.  Come see a weekly showcase of awesome designers who work hard to make you look good!  Click HERE for more information.

 

 

Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!

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-Kahlelah, MYGirls

MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 2: Competition, and “Frienemies”)

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

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Why hello, lovely young girls!!

Hopefully, by now, you all have been able to follow the MYGirls Blog Series  These blog entries, along with suggested reads from @, @, and @, are here for your viewing pleasure, as well as to provide insight and tips on how to be successful in school, build & maintain friendships, improve on home-based routines and responsibilities, and overall navigate through life in general.  We bloggers speak to you from experience, to both inspire and prepare you for what’s to come in the near (and distant future).

So far within the MYGirls Blog Series, we have covered Social Media Etiquette, Appearance & Personal Hygiene (broken into two parts), Academics, and  Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 1).  Today we will discuss Part 2 of the Leadership & Self-Esteem topic:  Competition & “Frienemies.”

teen-girls-s22-photo-of-competing-sisters By now, young girls, you should all be well-established in your classes, have developed great acquaintanceship with your teachers, joined clubs & organizations . . . maybe even a spirit squad!  But most definitely, you all should have begun friendships with your peers.  Some of these friendships may end up being temporary, even though they are begun with the goal of them lasting after high school, well into adulthood.

We choose our friends for many reasons.  As stated in Let’s Talk About Appearance & Personal Hygiene (Part 1:  Personal Hygiene), [with our friends, we are] sharing commonalities like favorite colors, favorite “girly” products (lip gloss, sweet-smelling lotions & body sprays, hair pins, etc), favorite courses & teachers, mutual friends, likes & dislikes, and the list goes on.  Much of our self-esteem comes from the influence of our friends.  To go deeper, we choose our friends based on how they make us feel when we are around them.  A good friend will make us laugh, comfort us when we are hurt, congratulate us for our achievements, encourage us, uplift us, and most importantly, support us.  A good friend helps us to discover ourselves and allows us to be ourselves, accepting us for who we are without casting judgment.

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A good friend will push you forward, to help you reach your highest potential.  A good friend wants to see you win, even if it means she temporarily loses.  And she wants to see you win, without jealousy.   A good friend respects you in a leadership role, sometimes more so than those not considered friends who are under your leadership.  Young girls, do your friends support you?  Are they genuinely happy when you win something, especially if you are competing against each other?  Do they feel as though your friendships are mere bouts of competition?

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There are several different ways you can evaluate your friendships; I would like to concentrate on 3 of them:

  • Accomplishments – say you made the Honor Roll, made captain of the basketball team, or earned the position of student body President . . . do your friends congratulate you, or brush it off as if it weren’t as big as something major that they have achieved?
  • Information – say you have the same class as your friends, and you are out of school for the day due to illness . . . do your friends share their class notes with you and inform you of any homework assignments that are due, or do they keep it to themselves which will put you at risk of a lowered grade?
  • Opportunity – say auditions for the school play are approaching, and your friends find out before you do . . . do they inform you of the upcoming date(s), or do they keep it to themselves in hopes you won’t get a shot at showcasing your talents?

If your friends cannot congratulate and support you in your accomplishments, share important information with you, or pass along a great opportunity to you, chances are you may have befriended frienemies.

 

27cityroom-wrestling-blog480 Sometimes we find that those whom we consider to be our friends, are our enemies in disguise.  Thus, “frienemies.”  A frienemy is someone who is nice, sweet, and friendly at first, in hopes that she keeps us close.  But because a frienemy thrives off of having someone around to validate them, she will keep us close to purposely turn us into her unwilling competitor.  She always wants to be better than us, so she will find ways to place us in an ‘us-versus-them’ situation.  Over time, a frienemy will eventually become your full-fledged enemy.

 

Young girls, it is very important that we are careful and mindful when we select our friends.  We must choose friends who bring out the best in us . . . and expect nothing less.  Remember, our friends are reflections of us:  we are the company we keep . . . we are who we hang out with.  It is important that YOU are also the humorous, comforting, congratulatory, encouraging, uplifting, and supportive friend that you aim to attract.  It’s okay to have a friend to win something over you.  It’s okay that your weakness might be her strength.  It’s okay that she might make a better class president . . . you might make a better team captain.  We all have our own strengths and weaknesses.  We all have areas in which we make great leaders.  We are equal to our friends, but not always identical, and that is perfectly fine!  Do not let that discourage you, young girls.

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Next week’s blog:  Health (Part 1:  Diet)

 

 

-Kahlelah, MYGirls

 

MYEvents: Thursday, September 25, 2014 – Wednesday, October 1, 2014

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Hello brilliant young girls!!

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

 

MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!

 

Thursday, September 25, 2014

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The mission of the South Los Angeles Homeless Transition Age Youth (TAY) and Foster Care Collaborative is to prevent and end youth homelessness in South Los Angeles.  RSVP Here to register for the community event to help end homelessness within our youth.

 

 

Saturday, October 4, 2014 – 

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Inspirational community leaders will come together with Charlotte’s Korner, Inc., to encourage, empower, and uplift our youth, as various issues concerning our teens will be discussed.  CLICK HERE for more information, or how to become a volunteer, vendor, or guest speaker.  (I will be one of the guest speakers, so please come in support of GU4AP!)

 

 

Friday, November 14th, 2014 – 

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Dynamic leaders will be honored and celebrated on this night of wonder.  SEE INFO Here for sponsorship packages.

 

 

ON-GOING EVENTS FOR 2014 – 

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FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003

 

 

Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!

 

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-Kahlelah, MYGirls

Why You Should Consider Studying Abroad in College

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Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you ladies are doing well. I hope you all are adjusting and enjoying your time so far in college. In this post I wanted to share and talk about taking advantage of studying abroad. I never personally studied abroad while I was in college but I have taken a trip of outside of the U.S. Studying abroad offers a unique opportunity to grow academically, professionally, and personally while going on a once-in-a-lifetime adventure. There are a number of other benefits to studying abroad, however, there are also numerous challenges.

The pros for studying abroad may be an ideal opportunity for you to seek adventure with the support network of an established program. For those of you who wish to learn a foreign language or develop existing foreign language skills and immerse yourself in a new culture will also find it beneficial. As well as, if you are considering a career in international relations you should definitely consider studying abroad, as it can increase job prospects upon graduation.

However, the cons for studying abroad is less suitable for you if you have strong attachments to your hometown and are wary of being far apart from your family and friends. Also, some universities also have strict requirements in place, restricting study abroad programs to those individuals who meet a minimum GPA. While there are study abroad scholarship opportunities specifically designed for students who wish to study abroad, their is that possibility that you may not be eligible. If you don’t qualify for a scholarship, weigh the pros and cons to make the best decision, and be sure to expand your search as far as what would be of help to you that would make it possible for you to study abroad.

 

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Why Should You Study Abroad?

1. Experience a Foreign Culture

Visiting foreign countries  in person, is an entirely different experience. When you study abroad, you participate in the day-to-day life of a new locale, gaining a first-hand understanding and new appreciation of the culture.

2. Second Language Skills

Studying abroad can provide you with a perfect opportunity to learn a new foreign language. Being surrounded by native speakers affords you the chance to immerse yourself in the language, which can expedite your retention and fluency.

3. Explore Your Own Heritage

Individuals whose familial heritage stems from abroad will often choose to explore their ethnicity and ancestry.

4. Pursue an Activity

Studying abroad is a chance for you to be adventurous, explore the unknown, and try your hand at activities that may not be offered back in your hometown.

5. Learn How to Communicate Across Cultures

Studying abroad helps you become familiar with the customs and traditions of the country in which you are studying, in addition to the language. By interacting with locals, you can develop an appreciation for the culture and its differences from your own.

6. Gain Independence

Studying abroad removes you from the normal support network that you are accustomed to back home. While on the one hand, being away from friends and family can seem daunting, it is also a chance for you to hone your own skills and gain some independence.

7. Manage Your Own Finances

One major aspect of being an independent adult is having the ability to manage your own finances. Regardless of whether your study abroad program is financed by a scholarship, grant, or another source of income, chances are that it will be your responsibility to pay the bills.

Also, living in a new country also forces you to learn to understand a new form of currency, and familiarize yourself with the various living expenses. Understanding how to manage your expenses will especially be beneficial when you no longer rely on the support of your family.

8. Increase Your Employment Opportunities

Employers value prospective candidates with international experience, foreign language skills, and the ability to communicate across cultures. If you’re interested in pursuing a career in international relations, diplomacy, or government, these skills will be especially useful.

Use your experience studying abroad to expand your set of abilities, and make these a determining factor that will separate you from the others in a pool of applicants.

9. Form and Develop New and Rewarding Relationships

Without your regular support group of friends and family, you will be confronted with new situations on a daily basis. However, studying abroad offers you the chance to meet new people and form friendships that may last a lifetime. Whether you’re living with a host family or in a student residence, make an effort to form relationships with those around you.

10. Networking

In addition to making friends, you can also form professional contacts while abroad. Generally speaking, course loads tend to be comparatively lighter while studying abroad, so this can be an ideal occasion to intern, work part-time,  or volunteer while you’re studying.

If you are considering studying abroad while in college go and speak to your college and/or university’s study abroad department and find out all the information concerning your schools study abroad program. They will tell you all you need to know and help you in getting all the information that is needed in order to study abroad.

Be Blessed

Christina

MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 1)

ATTENTION ALL YOUNG GIRLS:

*~ The MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday, at 6:00pm Pacific Standard Time. ~*

Greetings, outstanding young girls!!

Hopefully, by now, you all have been able to follow the MYGirls Blog Series  These blog entries, along with suggested reads from @, @, and @, are here for your viewing pleasure, as well as to provide insight and tips on how to be successful in school, build & maintain friendships, improve on home-based routines and responsibilities, and overall navigate through life in general.  We bloggers speak to you from experience, to both inspire and prepare you for what’s to come in the near (and distant future).

So far within the MYGirls Blog Series, we have covered Social Media Etiquette, Appearance & Personal Hygiene (broken into two parts), and Academics.  Today’s topic (now broken into two parts) will zero in on something that affects all young girls, worldwide:  Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 1).

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Leadership & Self-Esteem are extremely important to me when it comes to young girls, because they are things that young girls struggle with everyday.  But what is a leader?  A leader is someone who can make decisions with a sound mind, considering both the pros and cons of a particular situation.  A leader is someone who takes initiative, without having to be instructed to do so.  A leader is responsible, and holds him- or herself accountable for any mishaps.  A leader is knowledgeable, in one or many areas, by either study or experience.  Simply put, a leader handles business, and other people trust in leaders.  Many young girls lack the traits needed (confidence, bravery, ambition, strength, focus) to exhibit effective leadership.

This is largely because girls are typically discouraged from displaying their leadership abilities, and because the two go hand-in-hand, such discouragement directly affects their levels of self-esteem.  discouraged_child-250x250

Many times in school, girls are teased for raising their hands if they can answer questions presented to the class by their teachers.  How many of you young girls have been called offensive names like, “goody two-shoes?”  What about “know-it-all?”  I know I have, when I was your age.  Girls are often ridiculed for showing their intelligence, and it is treated as though it were against what society considers normal girl behavior.  In many cultures around the world, girls are discouraged or even restricted by law from learning anything outside of domestic duties (cooking, cleaning, raising children, being a wife).  Because boys grow to be the men who will lead the families & communities and males are to protect females, it is believed that a boy’s worldly education is more important, whereas a girl’s focus should be on homemaking skills.  It is believed that males are supposed to lead and females are supposed to follow (by nature, which is a topic that should be taught by your parent(s) ).  While all cultures are different in their traditions, it is no secret that girls are unfortunately kept from expanding their minds beyond what is accepted by their families, friends, and others in society. Attending school, which would take their minds away from the home, is definitely out of the question.

Here in America, girls are able to attend and participate in school, however the treatment isn’t too far off from being discouraged from attending school altogether.  Girls are usually shy, and that shyness is fueled by fear of being put on the spot by their peers.  A fellow student, most commonly a boy, will blurt out a joke in an attempt to embarrass a girl, and silence her from speaking up any further in class.

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Young girls, I’d love to know, and I’m sure you’d like to know within yourselves:

  • Do you find yourselves raising your hands slowly, and halfway in the air, to avoid attracting too much attention to yourselves?  When the teacher calls on you, do you answer in a low-toned voice?
  • Do you have trouble making eye contact, or do you hold your head down when speaking?
  • Do you say “I’m sorry,” “excuse me,” or “I don’t mean to . . . ,” more than necessary?
  • Do you find yourselves holding back on correct answers?  Do you hold back on your thoughts and opinions?
  • Do you hold back on group projects, for fear of being called “bossy” if you can facilitate the progression of group work?  Do you adhere to when people say that you can’t be in charge?

 

Young girls, I’ve been there before.  I know what it feels like to second-guess yourself because someone has challenged your thinking . . . even when I know I had the right answer.  I know what it feels like to not put my all into a class project, for fear of being called names.  I know what it feels like to not be sure of the sound of my own voice, and to speak timidly.  It is a painful feeling, and believe me, I know how it feels:  it’s like we’re expected to be clueless, and then ridiculed for being clueless.  Seems like a losing battle, doesn’t it?  Well young girls, I’m here to tell you, it’s not.  As a matter of fact young girls, it’s not a battle at all.  Especially, if we don’t make it one, or allow it to become one.  self-esteem

 

Young girls, there will always be people who will try to divert your attention away from your goals.  There will always be people who will try to discourage you from achieving.  There will always be people who will doubt your skills, your smarts, your intelligence, your potential . . . and many of those people will do so simply because you are a girl.  Many will try to take control of your confidence and self-esteem levels.  Well young girls, this is where YOU come in.

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And each one of these traits, can be found in each and every one of you wonderful young girls.  Each of you has the ability to master every trait listed in this fun illustration.  It would be damaging to believe that girls cannot be powerful, or ambitious, or outspoken.  It would diminish the confidence in a girl who is ridiculed for giving a presentation in front of her class.  Consider these words, your self-esteem boosters.  Utilize your tools, these boosters!!  Because I can bet that if each one of you amazing young girls repeats each word listed here in the above illustration, in the mirror, affirming it by first saying “I am,” and then each word right after . . . what I believe in you, you will be believe in you, too!

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Remember young girls, all great leaders didn’t start out that way.  Not everybody believed in them.  BUT, they found what they were good at, and excelled, becoming a leader (or expert) in that particular activity.  They fought through failures (which are only temporary setbacks), they continued on despite naysayers, they believed in themselves even when others around them didn’t.  Boys and girls are fit to be leaders, and it doesn’t have to be in the same activity, line of work, belief or practice, etc.  Remember that there will always be people who will purposely try to put you down.  However, you continue on regardless.  Girls are just as valuable, just as important, just as special, and just as powerful as boys . . . all in your own ways.  A boy might lead in math, a girl might lead in science.  A boy might lead in history, a girl might lead in social studies.  A boy my lead in business management, a girl might lead in economics.  A boy might lead in a group project based on art.  A girl might lead a group project based on literature.  Both might lead in finance.  Both might lead in politics.  Both might lead in medicine.  See?  We ALL can be leaders!  So young girls, let doubters (or, as many of you say, “haters”) motivate you to excel even further than you thought you could!  Those who try to discourage you, might be intimidated by you . . . so, let them be!  The only person you can control, is you.  The only person you have something to prove to, is yourself.  So make yourselves proud, young girls!  Prove yourselves right!

Believe that you achieve goals, and excel in school.  Believe that your voices matter.  Believe that YOU matter.  Don’t fear raising your hands if you know the right answers . . . be afraid of keeping it to yourselves!  Be afraid of NOT letting your lights shine!  Do not be afraid to be who & what you are! Screen-Shot-2014-03-10-at-11.27.06-AM

Our last GU4AP / MYGirls event on July 12, 2014, “Park Beautification Day” in Moreno Valley, CA, incorporated a Leadership workshop from Ban Bossy, an initiative brought to you by Lean In & Girl Scouts of the USA.  The Ban Bossy website has various downloadable activity & workshop booklets for students, teachers, parents, and troop leaders.  Each booklet contains several facts regarding females in school settings, the workforce, and environments in which girls interact with their friends.  I encourage you all to check out these booklets, as MYGirls will be using them for our upcoming Mentor / Mentee workshops.

As I conclude, young girls, I want to leave you with another list of self-esteem boosters:

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Though all of these tips may not apply to your lives, some of them will . . . so utilize your tools, your boosters!!

Next Friday’s blog:  Competition, and “Frenemies” (Part 2)

-Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

MYEvents: Thursday, September 18, 2014 – Wednesday, September 24, 2014

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Hi there, outstanding young girls!!

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

 

MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!

 

Sunday, September 21, 2014 – 

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Hair stylists from across America will come together for a chance to be honored as the Bobbi Boss 2014 “America’s Next Top Stylist.”  CLICK HERE for information, stylist registration, and consumer tickets. (I will be one of the models on the runway!)

 

Thursday, September 25, 2014

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The mission of the South Los Angeles Homeless Transition Age Youth (TAY) and Foster Care Collaborative is to prevent and end youth homelessness in South Los Angeles.  RSVP Here to register for the community event to help end homelessness within our youth.

 

Saturday, October 4, 2014 – 

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Inspirational community leaders will come together with Charlotte’s Korner, Inc., to encourage, empower, and uplift our youth, as various issues concerning our teens will be discussed.  CLICK HERE for more information, or how to become a volunteer, vendor, or guest speaker.  (I will be one of the guest speakers . . . updated flyer coming soon.)

 

Friday, November 14th, 2014 – 

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Dynamic leaders will be honored and celebrated on this night of wonder.  SEE INFO Here for sponsorship packages.

 

 

ON-GOING EVENTS FOR 2014 – 

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FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003

 

 

Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!

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-Kahlelah, MYGirls

MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Academics

ATTENTION ALL YOUNG GIRLS:

*~ The MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday, at 6:00pm Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

Hi there precious young girls!!!

 

So last Friday, I completed Part 2 of the 2-Part mini-series, Appearance & Personal Hygiene.  The focuses were taking care of yourself, and presenting the best of yourself.

While the next blog is Academics, I think @ has this department covered.  She is an expert in academic preparation:  staying on top of your grades, effective study habits, campus involvement, and financial responsibilities (for college students, so this would mean our 18-year-old MYGirls).  Follow her blog entries for great academic advice!!

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Before I go, I do want to leave you with a few pointers on balancing academics with other aspects in your lives:

 

Balance your time between academics and friends.  We love spending time with our friends.  We love to hang out, go to the mall, the beach, to each other’s homes, and we love relax a little, without responsibility.  However, we DO have responsibilities.  Young girls, you are responsible for completing your own classwork, completing and turning in your own homework.  You are responsible for your own studying, and you must develop your own study habits (for example:  you might not be able to concentrate on your work with music playing, even though your friend can).  You are responsible for making good grades.  Because your name is the only name on your report card.  So, let your name shine in lights with awesome grades!!

 

Balance your time between academics and extra-curricular activities.  We love to play sports.  We love to be involved on campus.  We love to gather with our friends and our peers for club meetings, school dances, team tryouts, school play auditions, talent shows, and other fun activities.  These exciting things to do, really stimulate the artistic sides of us.  They can also interfere with our academic progress.  Young girls, understand that extra-curricular activities are an EXTRA part of school; they do not make up the entire reason for being in school, and should not be the only reason for focusing on your studies and maintaining good grades.  Campus involvement is very important, as it makes for a well-rounded student . . . make sure, young girls, that you put scholastic activities at the same level of importance.  Maybe even a little higher.
**All work and no play makes Jill a dull girl, but no work and all play keeps Jill from graduating! 

 

 

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Balance your time between academics and boyfriends.  In school, we sometimes find that special someone of the opposite sex, who makes us laugh, comforts us when we cry, buys us lunch and other nice things, carries our books for us, defends us, protects us from harm, supports us at our games, and might even help us study.  Just like our friends, we need to find time away from our boyfriends to stay on track with our studies.  Love is a beautiful thing, and sometimes, we find it at a young age.  Young girls, please understand that love is a very strong word, with a very deep meaning, and you might be too young to fully understand it.  When you’re in love, it can take your mind away from so many things . . . including your responsibilities.  Our boyfriends cannot turn in our work for us to our teachers.  You must find a balance between the boy you love, and the schoolwork that will get you to the next level.  Talk to your parent(s) about it!

 

Balance your time between academics and household chores.  Our parents put a humongous effort into raising us.  Their children.  Their offspring.  Their reflections.  We must honor our parents.  Therefore, we must adhere to the responsibilities they give us, as well as our scholastic responsibilities.  When Mom says to wash the dishes, we do so.  When Dad says to clean our rooms, we do so.  When we are told o vacuum the livingroom floor, we do so.  No questions asked.  Why?  Because our parents are molding us into well-rounded individuals who can later function in life, as adults.  This may sound like a bit much, but truthfully, young girls, it’s not.  With time management and learning how to balance everything, it’s a piece of cake!

 

Young girls, it helps to invest in an organizer.  Or a monthly planner for the year. cd90133890fa6c20e977ac3162c31815

In it, write down all homework assignments, class projects, club meetings, team practice dates & times, and other important school-oriented responsibilities.  You can also write down your household responsibilities, like when you are to wash the dishes, do the laundry, clean the bathroom, clean your room, cook, and anything else your parent(s) delegate as your task.  Besides, when you leave for college, you might attend a college or university far away from your family.  So life skills must be intact if you plan to succeed on your own . . . which I’m sure you all want to eventually do!

 

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Let’s stay focused!!  Have a beautiful weekend, young girls.

 

Next Friday’s blog:  Leadership & Self-Esteem

 

-Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

Re-cap of the Community Swearing-In Celebration & Administration of the Oath of Office of District 1 Board Member, Dr. George J. McKenna, III

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What a day it was!!

Last Saturday, I attended the open community event, in honor of Dr. George J. McKenna, III.  A man who is a nationally-renowned leader for our youth in inner-city school districts throughout the Greater Los Angeles area.  It was such a beautiful sight to see:  parents, students, teachers, LAUSD board members, community leaders, and other key attendees offering support for the induction of our new LAUSD Board Member, representing District 1.

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It was such an honor meeting a divine gentleman, with a stellar vision for the advancement of our youth.  I also had the extreme pleasure of meeting U.S. Congresswoman, Maxine Waters, Representative of the 43rd congressional district of California.  Thank you for giving the youth a voice, Dr. McKenna!!

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The full press release is below.

 

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
August 12, 2014

Nationally-Renowned Educator George McKenna Elected to LAUSD Board of Education
Despite being outspent over 3 to 1, McKenna prevailed by building a coalition of community and educators.

Los Angeles, CA – Dr. George McKenna, the internationally-recognized educator whose turnaround of South Central Los Angeles’ Washington Prep High School led to the made-for-TV movie starring Denzel Washington, “The George McKenna Story,” overcame a 3-to-1 funding disadvantage to be elected to the District 1 seat of the school board that oversees America’s second largest school district.

McKenna ran a comparatively lean campaign that heavily relied upon a superior campaign strategy and the support of activist teachers and education, parent, community, and ecumenical leaders/organizations. The campaign built on the grassroots effort to appoint McKenna to the vacancy caused by the unexpected death of long-time board member Marguerite LaMotte on December 5, 2013. In January, the LAUSD school board rejected that call from the community, opting instead for a special election, which has left District 1 unrepresented for over 9 months.

In response to the 53% to 47% electoral result, McKenna said:

“The community won and sent a message that District 1 is not for sale.

“I am honored to succeed my long-time friend and colleague Marguerite Poindexter LaMotte. She was a champion for children and can never be replaced.

“I feel so privileged to have earned the trust and confidence of District 1 voters to be their school board representative.

“Today was an important day for the district, because of our election and because it marked the first day of school. Tonight, at dinner tables across our region children are telling stories about new adventures in learning, and teachers are assessing the day’s successes and challenges. They all should know how proud I am to be their board member, and how committed I am to their success. I am here to help every student reach their God-given potential, and give every teacher the support they need to fulfill their calling to education.

“The coalition we have built of parents, community and educators will not dissipate now that the electoral process is complete. Now begins the hard work of transforming our district, liberating our children, and emancipating our communities. Our task is not easy, but I welcome the challenge. I have never accepted an easy assignment in my career, yet I have always improved the educational outcomes of children. I will draw on the best of my experience, assemble an able team of advisors, and work in partnership with parents, teachers and the community to pursue excellence in our schools.

Let’s get to work.”

 

With five decades of experience, George McKenna has served at all levels of the educational ladder, including classroom mathematics teacher, principal and local district superintendent within LAUSD. Additionally, he served as Superintendent of the Inglewood USD, Deputy Director of the Compton USD and Assistant Superintendent of Secondary Schools in the Pasadena USD. He currently serves as an educational consultant, providing professional development and support to school districts and community organizations throughout the country.

McKenna has been recognized locally, nationally and internationally for his work in transforming schools, improving student performance and increasing community interest and involvement in local schools. With more than 400 citations, he has been profiled in national publications, including Time, People and Ebony magazines; television shows, including “Nightline” and “The Oprah Winfrey Show;” and numerous newspapers, including The Wall Street Journal, Los Angeles Times and The Christian Science Monitor.

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We at Girls Unite 4 A Purpose & MYGirls salute you, Dr. McKenna!!
**Special thank-you to Gwendolyn Cross of California Women 4 Women for the invitation.

-Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Appearance & Personal Hygiene (Part 2: Appearance)

ATTENTION ALL YOUNG GIRLS:

*~ The MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday, at 6:00pm Pacific Standard Time. ~*

Hello lovely young girls!

How are you all doing???  School is back in session, how are you classes going?  Are you well-adjusted to the teaching styles of your instructors?  Are you grasping the work in class, and understanding your homework?  Hopefully the answers to all these questions, is a confident “Yes!”  However, do not be discouraged if you have to answer “No.”  It is okay to need, and seek, help for yourselves.  We all are imperfect creatures, and a helping hand is typically a non-judgmental hand.

Last Friday’s blog piece was on Part 1 of a 2-Part entry:  Appearance & Personal Hygiene, with Part 1 being Personal Hygiene.  Last week’s topic focused on the importance of minding how often you allow your friends to use your health & beauty products (soaps, lotions, body sprays, lip balms & glosses, etc.), lest you make yourselves susceptible to the passing of germs, which can lead to allergic reactions, infections, and other possible ailments and illnesses.  As Part 1 pertained to how you take care of yourselves, Part 2, Appearance, will focus on how you present yourselves.

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Presentation is SO important when it comes to showing yourselves to the world.  There’s an old saying that goes, “you never get a second chance to make a first impression.”  While it is true that wo/man makes the clothes and not the other way around, the way that one dresses sets the tone for others to formulate their opinions about him or her, whether accurate about the person or otherwise.

When you are making yourselves visible to the world, you are showing the world who and what you are, based on the first impression they get from you.  No, you should not judge a book by its cover, however there is a reason why an author puts much time & thought into how he or she would like to illustrate the book title and cover.  Something has to attract the reader, and the visual must be persuasive enough to prompt the reader to check out the book’s overview . . . and possibly make the purchase from the bookstore or check-out from the library.  It’s all in the presentation!

Young girls, how do you see yourselves when you look in the mirror? stock-photo-10337028-young-girl-tries-on-crown-looking-in-mirror While we are defining ourselves based on likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, and how we relate to the rest of the world, we must also keep in mind that we are defining ourselves AND being defined.  Not initially by others, but rather by what we do when we present ourselves.  While no one else can define you, what you do to define yourself, can actually work against you.

If you have been keeping up with the blog entries from our GU4AP / MYG bloggers (outside of the MYGirls blog series), you will notice our fabulous blogger Ashley ( @ ) gave insight on great ways to present yourselves in her blog entry, “Age Appropriate Back to School Fashion Outfits for Young Girls . . . ”  I would like to expand a bit further on the importance of presentation, regarding possible messages others could be interpreting when viewing your first impression.

  • Wearing age-appropriate attire is extremely important, especially in young girls whose bodies have developed into shapes usually seen on adult females.  A young girl must first understand her body and its development, puberty, her sexuality, the vast differences between an adolescent and an adult, and the possible message she could give off if wearing makeup, tight or revealing clothing, high heels, hairstyles typically seen on adult females, long acrylic or press-on nails, and anything that screams “grown-up.”  Makeup is not for young girls.  High heels are not for young girls.  Tight or revealing clothing is not for young girls.  Multiple ear or body piercings are not for young girls.  Certain hairstyles are not for young girls.  We stress confidence, self-love, and we also stress self-respect.
  • As much as we must pay attention to how we are fixing ourselves up, we must also pay attention to the times we make NO effort to give good presentation.  While the exterior does not speak for the interior, the exterior could possibly distract the viewer, turning him or her away from the main goal of getting to the interior.  Hairstyles nowadays straddle the fence between ‘neat’ and ‘unkempt’, so there is really no defining base.  However, that does not mean to present yourself looking as though you rolled out of bed five minutes prior.  We must dress for what we want, and look the part.  Why?  Well, because you wouldn’t want to sit at the station of a manicurist who has dirty nails.  You wouldn’t want to sit in the chair of a hairstylist whose hair is all over the place . . . not in any particular style or pattern.  You wouldn’t want to buy food from a chef who came to work looking like he or she ran through a dust storm.  What clients would trust them and their service(s)?  None of those people would be dressed to look their parts.  It’s only fair that they don’t expect business to be good.

Young girls, remember as I said, you always want to “look the part.”  You always want to dress for what you want.  Your initial appearance is what gets others to believe in your words, your business, your product(s), your insight, your views.  And this means way more than the labels and price tags attached to the clothing you wear.

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Please understand, young girls, that paying attention to your appearance and presentation, is not to make you stuck-up, snobby, self-conscious, or to make you superficial.  Paying attention to the way you look, is exhibiting self-love, self-worth, self-respect, and self-esteem.  When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, you tend to want to DO good.  And when done with the proper guidance, you’ll always BE good.

 

Remember young girls, 1098168_10152162918519128_581882700_n1, and show the world how to love you too!!

 

-Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Appearance & Personal Hygiene (Part 1: Personal Hygiene)

Hello young girls!!

So as I previously stated in the introduction to the “MYGirls” Blog Series, we will post various blog entries over the next few months.  At first, it was stated that the blog entries would be posted however long it may take . . . and we realize that THAT needs to change.  From now on, all MYGirls blogs will be scheduled for Friday evening, at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time.  This makes for the perfect opportunity for you lovely readers to settle in from school, and take in a blog or two (or how ever many interest you), along with a healthy snack!

We have already touched on the topic of Social Media Etiquette:  how to conduct yourself via cyberspace, and how to make your online profile represent the real you in a positive manner.  Our next MYGirls topic, is Appearance & Personal Hygiene . . . which I have decided to break into two parts (and our blogger @ is ideal to follow for beauty & skin care tips, along with our bloggers @ who recently posted an entry pertaining to age-appropriate attire)! Remember young girls, these blog entries are here for you to read while you are navigating through teenage years, in school or at home, and will serve as helpful guides filled with knowledge, typically gained from experience, to assist you as you leave your mark in the free world of “cyberspace.”

And now, let’s talk about . . . Personal Hygiene! Bedtime collage

 

At this point, I am sure that many of you are back in session for the 2014-2015 school year, and have gotten pretty well-adjusted to your classes.  Many of you have reunited with old friends from last school year, and/or have managed to make new friends to begin the current school year.  Many of you have broken off into your friends’ circles, whether big or small, sharing commonalities like favorite colors, favorite “girly” products (lip gloss, sweet-smelling lotions & body sprays, hair pins, etc), favorite courses & teachers, mutual friends, likes & dislikes, and the list goes on.

 

Let’s visit the favorite “girly” products.  While our amazing blogger Emily Jean goes over a few products via her usage and recommendation, I would like to touch on further etiquette behind using these products . . .

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Ask yourselves, “what are all the products I like to use?”  We females love to be clean.  We love our shampoos & conditioners, cleansers & moisturizers, applicators & removers, and so on.  When we see a product, especially if it is new or has bright packaging, we begin to hear the bells & whistles that urge us to PURCHASE.  And, after the purchase, we like to show our girlfriends our new findings.

What usually comes right after the big reveal to the girlfriends?  The girlfriends want to use your new products.

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Sharing is indeed caring, and we always want to be nice and show ourselves friendly to those whom we consider our friends.  We like to trade things with our friends.  We want our girlfriends to experience the same joyous feeling(s) we get after opening, trying, and anticipating results of a new product.  However, young girls, the passing of germs also goes into Personal Hygiene.  When we carelessly allow for our friends to make usage of our products on their faces & bodies, that we use on our own faces & bodies, we open the door to germs from others being left behind in our product containers (especially if the product(s) used do(es) not come from a pump dispenser 15ozPumpDispr10053558_x ), and possible skin irritations, allergic reactions, break-outs, and infections are sure to rise.  Now don’t get me wrong, this is NOT to say that you should treat your friends like they’re walking diseases because they are not!  il_570xN.215889927 WE LOVE OUR FRIENDS!! By now, everyone should know how to be clean:  how to bathe at least once a day and pay particular attention to vital areas, how to brush their teeth how ever many times in a day (as needed or mandated by a dentist), how to maintain & style their hair (or go to a hair salon), how to wash our hands before leaving a public restroom or handling someone else’s food.  However, it is imperative to understand that as we are all friends, we may like the same things but we do not DO the same things.  We do not all shampoo & condition our hairs the same, we do not cleanse & moisturize the same, we do not use the same products by routine (therefore using a new product, even on the strength of a friend’s recommendation or new purchase, could affect your level of personal hygiene).  We may like the same foods but our diets are different, and our bodies digest food, shed skin, grow hair, and perspire differently.

Imagine how unsanitary it can be, if you were to use the lip gloss of a friend who recently had a fever blister . . .

Imagine how unsanitary it can be, if you were to wash your face with the same cloth of a friend who recently played a sport, and returned sweaty . . .

Imagine how unsanitary it can be, if you were to brush your hair with the same brush of a friend who hasn’t washed her hair in about a week . . .

 

Our bodies respond differently to the air we breathe, the water we drink, the food we eat, the water we bathe in, the products we apply & remove, and the surrounding atmosphere in its entirety.  What your friend can handle, you might not be able to.  And vice-versa.

While we love each other, we must remember to protect ourselves . . . sometimes from each other.  Let’s be mindful of the personal items we share; our products that we allow our friends to use.  Young Girls, let’s be clean and sanitary!!

Part 2:  Appearance . . . coming next Friday.  Stay tuned!

 

Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

MYGirls: Blog Series Update

Hi there young girls!!

 

As you may have already read, GU4AP’s “MYGirls” Program has implemented the “MYGirls” Blog Series, a collection of entries zeroing in on issues that affect young girls, ages 8-18.  The “MYGirls” Blog Series will offer sound advice by illustrating fictitious scenarios that may be familiar in the lives of our girls, as well as personal experience(s) from our Mentors.  The blog series will also open the opportunity for discussions between our Mentors and Mentees, to hopefully break down any fear or shyness when approaching certain subject matter.

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At first, we had no set time over the next few months (or however much time we figured it would take) as to when the blogs would be posted for viewing . . . and we realized that THAT needed to change, into a more structured method.  That being said, the “MYGirls” Blog Series will be issued every Friday, at 6:00pm, and will contain blog entries based on the following subjects:

 

  • Social Media Etiquette
  • Appearance & Personal Hygiene (now broken into two parts)
  • Academics
  • Leadership & Self-Esteem
    –Competition, “Frenemies”
  • Safety
    –Rape, Self-Defense
  • Health
    –Diet
    –Exercise
    –Mentality

 

There will be certain blog entries specifically for our girls, ages 12-18 (for these entries, we do advise having a parent or legal guardian present, to read along with you):

 

  • Commitment, Loyalty, and Relationships
    –Contraception, Sex
  • Health
    –Menstruation

 

Today’s blog will be Part 1:  Personal Hygiene, at 6:00pm this evening.

 

We at Girls Unite 4 A Purpose (GU4AP) want you young girls to know that we are here for you.  We know that you may have questions, concerns, and worries, and we hope that the information we share will give you insight, along with the courage to press forward through life’s challenges.

 

You have a safe space in the “MYGirls” Program . . . girls-hanging-out-590x295 . . . consider this your 2nd home!!

 

–Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

Effective Studying Tips For College

 

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Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you ladies are doing well! I wanted to share with you all some great effective studying tips. Learning how to study can be tricky, but with the right tips and ticks, you can conqueror your studying woes. Effective studying habits are pretty much the essential key to having a successful college career. So here are some great studying tips.

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Make a Study Guide

Whether or not your professor or teacher gives you a study guide for an exam, making a study guide is very helpful when studying for tests. Go through the textbook, notes, and any other material and write down any information that you think may be on the test such as important concepts, definitions, and formulas.

Make Flash Cards

Flash cards are helpful tools in remembering vocabulary, formulas, and key concepts. They are also easy to carry around with you so you can review them anytime. Also, highlighters works wonders when it comes to studying information that is important.

Quiz Yourself

To ensure that you are prepared for your test, make a mock quiz to test how well you know the material. Write down a list of keywords or questions and make sure to leave room underneath each one. Then, pretend that you’re taking the test and write down as much as you can.

Set Time Goals

Setting time goals for yourself will help make sure that you stay on track especially when you have time constraints.

Remember to Take Breaks

Don’t try and cram all the information that you are reading and don’t try to cram it all in the day before or day of your test or exam! You need to take short breaks to allow your brain to process and retain the information. Otherwise, you may confuse yourself or forget something you have already studied. Taking a 10-15 min study break is pretty much standard, you don’t want to take too long of a break because you’ll never get back to studying!

Don’t Study Alone

If you find that you can’t study in total silence then play some music on low but if you find yourself becoming distracted by it then find another method. If studying alone works for you then great! But there is nothing wrong with scheduling and meeting up with some of your classmates to study together.

Get lots of sleep

Make sure that you are getting a full night of sleep. By getting a full night of sleep, you are usually more alert, more focused and learn things easier. Try to keep your sleep schedule as consistent as possible.

 

Everyone is different, what may work for one may not work for another. So find what works for you, everyone can develop effective study habits. Also,  remember to not stress yourself out about anything. If you don’t do as well on your first test, quiz, or exam its okay. Develop a study habit and you’ll do great the next time! Hope you all find these tips useful and helpful!!

 

Be Blessed

Christina

An open letter to all incoming college freshman

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Greetings and Blessings!!

Hope you ladies are doing well!! I hope for those who have started school this week that you are getting comfortable with getting familiar with your classes, professors/teachers, and the campus itself. For those who are looking to start next week, I hope you are prepared and focused and excited for this new adventure. The first couple of weeks can be rather nerve racking because you are going all over campus trying to find this building or that building where your class is being held in. If you have a map of the campus, I advise that you use it so that you can familiarize yourself with where the different buildings are on your college campus. Also, there is nothing wrong with asking another student or faculty member where a particular building is. There are many welcome back activities that will be taking place during this time as well. These welcome back activities are a great way to meet and greet and interact with fellow incoming freshman and upper classmen as well.

Take and embrace these first couple of weeks in because once they are over it will be time for you to focus on your schoolwork. Your studies are important and it is important that you find a balance that works for you of dedicating time to study and also find some time to have fun. Yes, you will have to put your phone away while you are in class. There is nothing that you will miss on social media for that time you are in class! No professor or teacher likes when a student(s) is on their phone while they are giving a lecture! You may think your professor or teacher doesn’t notice when you check your phone but they do! Don’t skip class no matter how boring it may be, if you miss a day you miss so much! Don’t stress yourself out too much and you will make mistakes and it is okay! This is your time to find out who you are and for you to embrace the uncertainties and let them help guide you to your inner self and your true calling. You don’t have to have everything figured out now and no one excepts you to. So take these next four or five years of your college experience and embrace the challenges, struggles, ups and downs, good and bad, and let it develop you into the person that God wants you to be. I pray that you all have great first semester and I look forward to continue writing about the college experience.

Be Blessed

Christina

Campus Involvement

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Greetings and Blessings!!!

Hope you ladies are doing well and are getting prepared to start school!! In this post I would like to talk to you about becoming involved in extra curricular activities. Getting involved on campus will help you become familiar with your respective college or university and the surrounding community. There are a number of different benefits associated with becoming involved in college activities. The most essential and personal one would be connecting. You will be able to forge many friendships with individuals. You will meet and interrelate with people from all walks of life not only from your school but other schools as well. Also, you will be able to interact and network with diverse professionals within their field and other supportive fields. Being able to make these connections will help you feel included as well as being exposed to the diverse culture, opinions, and opportunities. Getting involved will also be beneficial in terms of that it will enrich your college experience. The things that you learn while participating in extracurricular activities can have a significant impact on your college life and on your future career.

Another benefit would be of course having fun! The main purpose in attending school is for you to further your education but it is important to find some form of release from all that studying because it can become overwhelming. So, getting involved with extracurricular activities and having fun will help you relax and assuage any anxiety about your classes.

 

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Ways to Get Involved 

First, you must look at your planner to make sure there is time to devote to possible activities. It is important that you  avoid over extending yourself to prevent undue stress and/or making a commitment that you are unable to fulfill.

Second, you can go to the Student Activities Office to find out the different organizations and programs existing on campus. You can become part of a sports team, member of a dance team, representatives in the student government (SGA), members or officers of a social club, debate team, etc.

Third, attend club fairs and other events to learn as much as possible about the different organizations and activities to make sure these are a good fit. Choose things that appeal to you and that may be of use later once you graduate. Get all the information you can about the organization or activity before committing or signing up with that group!!

Many of these organizations require you to keep and maintain a certain GPA in order to join and to remain as members therefore, you can’t afford to ignore your studies. It is important that you find the balance between school work and extracurricular activities. There is a benefit in taking a total break from studying it helps you become refreshed and get back to studying with more energy. It is not mandatory to become involved in something during your college years. But it is helpfully and it could open the door to many opportunities and possibilities. Hope you find this post helpful!!!

 

Be Blessed

 

Christina

Choosing a Major/Minor

 

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Greetings and Blessings!!!

Hope you ladies are doing well and are getting geared up to go back to school. For the ladies who are getting prepared for college I hoped you enjoy reading the off to college checklist post. In this post I would like to talk to you about choosing (declaring) a major and/or minor. You will have an academic adviser to help you when you are enrolled in your basic requirements but once you declare a major you will have an academic adviser for that specific department that you will be majoring in. Your academic adviser will be there to help and guide you through during your time as an undergrad. Get to know them build a rapport with them they are there to help you! Now, when you first start off in your classes, you will be taking pretty much your basic requirements (classes) they are just like  refresher courses from high school. Yes, as silly as these classes may seem it is important that you take these classes seriously and pass them. You don’t want anything to come back and prevent you from graduating.

 

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I believe that most schools would look for you to declare a major and/or minor by the middle of your sophomore year if you haven’t done so during your first year. (I didn’t declare my major until my junior year and I’ll say why towards the end of the post) For some this can be an easy decision because they already have an idea as to what they want to pursue a career in while for others it can be a bit overwhelming.  Finding the right major is a process and it is okay if you don’t know right away what you want to major in. When you are thinking about choosing a major and/or minor it is a good idea to have an invested interest in something. Something that you have a passion for and that you can see yourself doing and wouldn’t consider it a job. It could be arts, music, politics, fashion, photography etc. It is good to get advice or opinions from fellow classmates, friends, family, and your adviser. But whatever you decide it is ultimately up to YOU!! It is important that you seek and pray to God for guidance and direction as well. It is important that you follow your heart. Don’t let the opinions of others sway you from choosing what you want to do to what they want you to. As you go through life, you will learn that it is important to do what makes you happy and not settle. If God gave you a vision then nothing else matters. It is okay if everyone doesn’t understand your vision because he gave it to you not them.

When it comes to minors all departments don’t require you to have a minor along with what your majoring in. But for those that do, a minor is a secondary field that you want to specialize in while you are working on your major. Your major is what your intended career is, but your minor is something you pursue because of your personal interests. With minors you typically have to maintain an C or above in order to not retake any classes and the same goes for what you are majoring in.

I did say I was going to say why I didn’t declare my major til my junior year and this is why when I transferred to the school I received my BA from I was taking Biology courses. I thought I wanted to go to med school and work in a hospital. But I wasn’t as excited and engaged as one should be. So one day I was sitting in my class and physically I was there but mentally my mind was elsewhere. It wasn’t in my heart to do as I thought before. I talked to my adviser and she suggested that I pray about it and I did. I ended up transferring out that department and transferring to the College of Liberal Arts Department and declaring my major as Psychology. It was the best decision that I made and God set it on my heart to do. Yes, there were people who had their opinions about it but it didn’t matter. I was following my heart and I have no regrets about it!

I hope you ladies enjoy reading this post and find it helpful! Remember seek God and follow your heart in all that you do!

 

Be Blessed

 

Christina

Girls Unite 4 A Purpose, “MYGirls” Blog Series

Greetings beautiful young girls!!

 

Welcome to Girls Unite 4 A Purpose!!  GU4AP is an organization geared towards inspiring and uplifting females, from young girls to adults, in efforts to encourage confidence, leadership, and self-esteem, as they move through life’s various endeavors & obstacles.  We seek to stress to importance of love & respect for one another, teamwork, cultivating strong alliances & friendships, and service to others.

That being said, GU4AP would like to introduce the “MYGirls” Blog Series, a collection of entries zeroing in on issues that affect young girls, ages 8-18.  The “MYGirls” Blog Series will offer sound advice by illustrating fictitious scenarios that may be familiar in the lives of our girls, as well as personal experience(s) from our Mentors.  The blog series will also open the opportunity for discussions between our Mentors and Mentees, to hopefully break down any fear or shyness when approaching certain subject matter.

Over the next few months (or however much time it may take), the “MYGirls” Blog Series will contain blog entries based on the following subjects:

 

  • Social Media Etiquette
  • Appearance & Personal Hygiene
  • Academics
  • Leadership & Self-Esteem
    –Competition, “Frenemies”
  • Safety
    –Rape, Self-Defense
  • Health
    –Diet
    –Exercise
    –Mentality

 

There will be certain blog entries specifically for our girls, ages 12-18 (for these entries, we do advise having a parent or legal guardian present, to read along with you):

 

  • Commitment, Loyalty, and Relationships
    –Contraception, Sex
  • Health
    –Menstruation

 

We at Girls Unite 4 A Purpose (GU4AP) want you young girls to know that we are here for you.  We know that you may have questions, concerns, and worries, and we hope that the information we share will give you insight, along with the courage to press forward through life’s challenges.  You have a safe space in the “MYGirls” Program . . . consider this your 2nd home!!

 

–Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

 

GU4AP’s 1st annual “Park Beautification Day,” 7/12/14

Whew! What a day it was . . .

As we Mentors made our ways from our respective residences to Towngate Memorial Park in Moreno Valley, CA, we hadn’t the slightest idea of what would be the overall outcome of our 1st annual Girls Unite 4 A Purpose “Park Beautification” event.  We locked in the location, secured our spot for a park bench & BBQ pit, divided the logistics between our awesome Founding CEO & Director of Queens Unite Everywhere (QUE), our Director of Public Relations & “MYGirls,” and Breyawna our fabulous Events Coordinator.  We had Lia, our Mentor & resident Beauty Queen (crowned Miss California Plus America 2014) set up the decorations which turned our day into a beautiful luau . . . and of course, we brought the beverages, food & fixings, along with the #BanBossy workshop supplies and gift bags for all attendees.

Lastly, we had Sasha, Omolara, Faith, and Ty’Kea, our eager Volunteers  who soon became new Mentors. 20140712_111042

Yet, we were short the most important element:  Mentees.

Determined to expect the unexpected and not forget about the reason for the day, we at GU4AP decided to take a small detour, redirecting our focus to training the new Mentors, while leaving the invitation open to any young girl interested in what we had going on.  Prepping our new Mentors for their future Mentor/Mentee relationships, we stressed the importance of communication, leadership, self-esteem, and teamwork; well into our morning #BanBossy workshop, our Mentors were able to exercise leadership and initiative by taking gift bags to a mother and grandmother near our setup, for them to take home to any young girls in their families.

 

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Our day was running smoothly.  Until a minor setback made it get much smoother . . .

A malfunction with the luau decorations opened up the door of opportunity:  a cluster of our balloons flew a few yards away from our spot, which caught the attention of a group of 5 young girls, ranging from ages 8 to 16.  Shy at first, the girls found interest in GU4AP, and opted to join us for the entire event duration.  The exchanges of names, issuance of food & beverages, gifting of bags, and meeting of parents & sharing of our organization’s purpose, recharged the motivation within all of us to press forward in our quest to reach out to young girls.  Before our very eyes, we saw how expecting the unexpected made for the enjoyment and ending of an overall perfect day!

 

So, WHY did we do what we did on Saturday morning?  WHY did we reach out to young girls in the communities?

Because there are so many young girls who feel alone, invisible, objectified, scared, silenced, unattractive, unsure of themselves.  There are so many young girls in our communities who don’t have positive role models to look up to.  There are so many young girls who lack goals, aspirations, who have never made any life plans, whether short term or long term.  There are so many young girls with questions, concerns, worries about life, school, the future, and especially what it means to be a Woman. There are so many young girls in our communities who turn to negative entities as outlets.  There are so many young girls who lack confidence, and are yearning for positive ways to express themselves.     20140712_110937

 

 

We at Girls Unite 4 A Purpose (GU4AP), which houses Queens Unite Everywhere (QUE) and “MYGirls,” aim to inspire and uplift the young girls in our respective communities, and around the world when our power and outreach increases.  Through activities, workshops, leadership & team-building exercises, writing projects and more, we believe that our work will greatly impact the lives of our young girls, and influence them to be the best of themselves that they could ever be.

 

Parents, PLEASE get your young girls involved.  If you have daughters, nieces, granddaughters, Goddaughters, etc . . . GU4AP welcomes you!

 

-Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

 

Make-Up Do’s and Don’ts

Hello again everybody!

It’s been a couple of weeks since I’ve made a post, which really isn’t great! Things have started to become a little hectic all of a sudden at work and I’m finding myself with very little spare time to get anything done! I’m hoping over the next couple of weeks that will change so that I can focus on blogging and studying again!

Today I’m going to talk through what, in industry, is considered to be the proper order of make-up application and also some do’s and don’ts for mature make-up, glass wearers and contact lens wearers.

When studying the make-up unit at college, we were all a little baffled to learn there is a certain order in which products should be applied. I think we were all a little baffled as of course, we’ve all been applying our own make-up for years, but never really considered there being a “correct” order or applying it! Of course foundation goes before blusher and eye-make up etc. But to hear there was more to it was a little unusual. Some people apply eyeliner before mascara, whereas others apply it after. Some people leave blusher until last, whereas others do it straight after foundation. Some people apply lipstick after their foundation and blusher, whereas others will move onto their eye make-up first! The differences in how people apply their make-up is endless, it’s all down to preference. However, when working on client’s, we’ve learnt there is an order in which you need to apply the make-up.

1. Cleanse the skin and remove any already applied make-up. This ensures all old make-up and dirt is removed so you have a clean canvas.

2. Tone

3. Moisturise! This gives the skin a smooth base to apply your make-up onto, as well as hydrating your skin.

Steps 1-3; cleansing, toning and moisturising is an important part of your daily skincare routine! My first post on MYGirls was based on identifying your skin type in order to learn which products will suit your skin type best! You can find this post, here! I hope it helps.

4. Apply any skin correcting concealers. See my previous post on skin correcting techniques and tips to help you out; here!

5. Apply your foundation. Foundation should always blend into your skin colour perfectly! You can always mix a dark and a lighter foundation together to create the perfect shade for your skin. Always be sure to check that your foundation blends into your hair line and your neck so that there are no sharp, unblended areas of foundation.

6. Blemish concealers. Apply the blemish concealers, the colour closest to your skin type, over any blemishes you wish to hide. This also includes covering up dark under eye circles, thread veins, moles, spots and dark skin pigmentation.

7. If you are using cream products, such as highlighters, shaders, blushers or eye shadows – now is the time to apply them! After applying your cream products, use a loose powder over them to set them.

Step 7 and 8 is when you should be contouring, if you choose to! My post on the basics of contouring may come in use if you wish to try it out! You can find that post, here!

8. If you are NOT using cream products, and are using powder products, ignore step 7. Apply your powder products as normal.

9. Now it’s time for eyeliner! Apply your eyeliner as you wish to. See my previous post on eyeliner techniques to give you some ideas; here!

10. Mascara. Apply a coat or two of mascara to the upper lashes first, then apply to the bottom lashes.

11. Eyebrow pencil. Always apply it in light strokes so that it doesn’t come off patchy or too dark for your hair.

12. Lipliner. Liner helps to enhance the shape to your lips neaps and flawlessly, as well as helping the life of your lipstick last! From the centre of your lips, outwards, work your way around carefully and steadily to create a nice, crisp and defined lip.

25. Lipstick/lipgloss. Apply a couple of coats for a beautiful and even finish! And you’re done!

Mature Make-up Do’s and Don’ts

DO

  • Use a cream foundation (apply with a sponge)
  • Use a cream or liquid blusher (apply with a sponge)
  • Use a light/neutral covering powder
  • Accentuate the eyebrows with an eyebrow pencil
  • Only apply the mascara to the upper lashes
  • Be sure to use non-run mascara
  • Correct any bleeding from the lipstick
  • Press a damp cottonpad over the face – this gives a more natural, less matte finish!

DON’T

  • Apply too much foundation around wrinkles
  • Apply powder if the skin is very dry
  • Apply powder around the eye area
  • Apply cream eye shadow to “crepey” eyelids!
  • Apply mascara to the lower lashes
  • Apply eyeliner or kohl
  • Apply eyeshadow to the lower lid
  • Use pearlised eye shadows or contour cosmetics

Tips for a Glass Wearer’s Make-Up

If you are longsighted, your eyes behind glasses can look pinheaded. You should use clear colours and avoid white, pearly eye shadows as it will reflect on the lenses of your glasses. You need to really focus on lengthening and enlarging the appearance of your eyes. You can accentuate the eye socket by applying a darker shadow to the crease of your eye, make sure to blend it all in neatly. If you use false lashes, they should be short but thick – long ones will touch the lenses of your glasses and cause discomfort! Avoid using kohl eyeliner on the inner rim of your eyes, as it can make them look smaller!

If you are short sighted, your eyes tend to look enlarged and can look a little distorted behind the lenses. Try to avoid bright and powdery eyeshadows, and do not try to accentuate the eye socket as this can actually be quite ageing behind these glasses! If you wish to use eyelashes, preferably choose individual eyelashes. If your lenses are tinted, definitely wear black mascara, and remember to try and use eyeliner sparingly!

Tips for a Contact Lens Wearer’s Make-Up

As you should know, if you wear contacts you should not apply make-up after you have put your contacts in, and you should also take them out before removing your make-up.

DON’T use mascaras with filaments or ones that are protein enriched.
DO use non-perfumed and allergy tested products, you don’t want to cause any irritation to your eyes with or without contacts in anyway!
DON’T use powdery eye shadows, any bits that fall into your eyes will feel very scratchy and unbearable!
DO use products with a low oil content. If any oily products enter your eyes, they may cause a few problems with your contacts!
DON’T use heavily pearlised products.
DON’T use kohl eyeliner on the inner rim of the eyes
DON’T use hairspray after inserting your lenses! You should always spray it before putting them in.

Thank you for reading, ladies! I hope this post comes in use to you.

Emily Jean

Eyeliner Techniques

Hello!

Today I’m just going to go through some simple and basic eyeliner techniques. Unfortunately this is a very short post, however I hope that it can inspire some of your eyeliner techniques and the sources for these images can help you try out new techniques!

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1. A very subtle technique with a more natural look. You apply a very fine line to your upper lid and smudge the pencil or wet liquid eyeliner with a brush.

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2. Applying a slightly thicker area in the middle of the upper lid can create a rounder and fuller looking eye.

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3. To make your eyes look larger, you can apply eyeliner to only the outer corners of your eye.

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I found a lovely make-up tutorial in a blog post where this eyeliner technique is used flawlessly and it looks so beautiful! Check out the tutorial here

4. A more dramatic look, and also a very popular one, is to apply liner to the upper lid (and sometimes the bottom) and create a flick (or a wing as most people call it, e.g. “winged eyeliner”). This can also be known as “cat eye” eyeliner. This style varies from person to person based on their preferences, some people like their “wings” to be longer or thicker for a bolder look, whereas some people like just a small wing so it’s not too strong!

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I hope you have fun playing and experimenting with your eyeliner techniques! There are some really beautiful looks out there and make-up artists and make-up lovers are constantly coming up with new, fresh, bold, subtle and beautiful eyeliner looks.

Thank you for reading!

Emily Jean

Correcting Minor Imperfections and Blemishes

Hello!

I’ve been trying to focus on posts that are probably a little bit ‘make-up basic knowledge’ to begin with. I hope nobody minds that I’ve done this so far! I feel it’s a good starting point to me posting on this blog, as it would be a great starting point for any readers who don’t know a lot about make-up and wish to can learn these little tips and tricks, before I start posting any make-up tutorials or reviews!

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This post is focusing on correcting what you may consider as imperfections with a few little make-up tricks.

Concealers

Concealers come in a variety of different forms. Such as:

  • Liquids – apply with a sponge
  • Powder – apply with brush or cotton wool
  • Stick – apply with brush or fingers
  • Compact – apply with a brush or cotton wool

Not only can you get different forms as above, but you can also purchase different colours; green, lilac, beige/tawny tones. These colours are used for different purposes. The greens are ideal for covering up any redness in your skin, the lilac toned concealers help to cover up any sallow skin, and the beige/tawny toned concealers are your standard skin coloured concealers usually available in a range of shades which are mostly used to cover up blemishes.

Complexions

  • If you have a highly coloured or vascular complexion, the best thing to do is to use a green based concealer. It’s ideal to apply the green based concealer before you apply your foundation, otherwise if you apply a little too much of the concealer, you can sometimes have the green showing over your foundation. The green base helps to tone down the colour.
  • If you have an uneven blotchy or veined complexions, medium beige and tawny tones can be used to balance the tones of your skin to match and appear less noticeable. If there are any prominent veins you can use skin toned concealers to help cover them up a little more if you wish to.
  • If you have a sallow skin or pigmented complexion a lilac based concealer is ideal. This will tone down the sallow complexion. Again, the same as the green concealer, this should be applied before the foundation. Any pigmentation can be covered with corrective creams before the foundation is applied also.

Minor Imperfections

  • Dark under eye circles

Apply a little concealer under your eyes to cover it up, but be sure to not apply too much. You can also use a lilac based concealer if you prefer.

  • Dehydrated skin

Make sure to use a cream foundation and only a small amount of powder. Powder can make your skin dry up and also can make any dry patches of skin more noticeable! (Trust me, I’ve learnt this from unfortunate experience!) It’s also best to use a cream blusher as opposed to a powder, for the same reason as above!

  • Puffy under eyes

Apply highlighter around the area and shader directly onto the puffy area. Make sure to blend the two areas together nicely so that it’s not noticeable.

  • Thread veins and high colouring

These can be toned down and hidden by using a green toned moisturiser or concealer under your foundation.

  • Lined lips

This is mostly common in more mature people, and if this is the case, you may find that your lipstick can “bleed” into the area surrounding your lips. You can correct this by applying foundation to your lips and setting it with a powder. Next, line your lip shape using a lip pencil or a lip brush, make sure to keep this line slightly within your natural lip line. Using a lip brush, set the liner with a loose powder and then fill in the inside area with colour.

  • Blemishes (spots or whiteheads)

You can actually get medicated concealers, however if not use your normal concealer. Apply a few very thin coats as opposed to one thick one. Make sure that you use a concealer that is as close to your natural skin colour as you can, otherwise this can make blemishes stand out a little more! Concealer shades can be blended together to match your skin tone perfectly.

  • Superfluous hair (unwanted facial hair)

Avoid cake foundations and use liquid, moisturised or all-in-one foundations. Only if necessary, apply a very small amount of powder. Also be careful to apply any products in a downwards motion to avoid clogging any hairs.

  • Age lines

The aim with age lines is to make them appear fuller! Use a lighter coloured foundation to highlight within the folds of these little lines. However, make sure that not too much foundation falls into or settles in these lines, otherwise it can end up making them look like deep lines!

  • Freckles and moles

You can purchase covering foundation creams or blemish sticks which are usually a little thicker and are better to colour up darker marks such as moles. You must be careful to make sure that this cream or blemish stick matches the tone of your foundation perfectly, otherwise they can make the area stand out!

I hope that this little post was helpful to anyone who had any queries about covering up little blemishes and how to do it correctly! Thank you for reading!

Also if anybody wishes for me to write a post on anything in particular, just comment and let me know and I will try and get your requests written up!

Emily Jean