MYEvents: Thursday, January 8, 2015 – Wednesday, January 14, 2015

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Hey there, bright young girls!!

 

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

 

Happy-new-year-kids-drawing-2015 HAPPY NEW YEAR, YOUNG GIRLS!!! It has been quite a while since our last posting of upcoming events for 2014 . . . and now we are back, revamped and ready!  Starting today, MYEvents will feature events of which GU4AP will either be an attendee or active participant.  While we want to support others . . . we strongly believe that the highest level of support begins at home base.  As we grow within, we also grow with others!!

MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!

 

 

ON-GOING EVENTS FOR 2015 – 

 

 

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Moreno Valley Unified School District is seeking a Parent Ambassador.  As a Parent Ambassador, you will promote a positive relationship between parents, community, and the school district.  Among many other important duties, you will also encourage parental involvement in school, such as attending Open House, Back-to-School Night, etc.
Stipend:  $300/month
Workdays:  Days & times will vary
Deadline:  Open until filled
Requirements:  Completed application, two (2) signed letters of recommendation, copy of driver’s license

For more information, contact Human Resources Division, (951) 571-7500, ext. 17575
Website:  www.mvusd.net

Moreno Valley Unified School District
25634 Alessandro Blvd.
Moreno Valley, CA 92553

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Help Youth Through Golf is offering free weekly golf clinics for children ages 5 to 17, held at Kelly Park, every Saturday, 1:00-3:00pm, in Compton, CA.
NO EXPERIENCE NECESSARY.
For more information please contact Luis Batson, (562) 233-9429

Website:  HYTG.org
Facebook.com/hytg2011

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FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003

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Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!

-Kahlelah, MYGirls

 

MYEvents: Thursday, September 25, 2014 – Wednesday, October 1, 2014

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Hello brilliant young girls!!

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

 

MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!

 

Thursday, September 25, 2014

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The mission of the South Los Angeles Homeless Transition Age Youth (TAY) and Foster Care Collaborative is to prevent and end youth homelessness in South Los Angeles.  RSVP Here to register for the community event to help end homelessness within our youth.

 

 

Saturday, October 4, 2014 – 

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Inspirational community leaders will come together with Charlotte’s Korner, Inc., to encourage, empower, and uplift our youth, as various issues concerning our teens will be discussed.  CLICK HERE for more information, or how to become a volunteer, vendor, or guest speaker.  (I will be one of the guest speakers, so please come in support of GU4AP!)

 

 

Friday, November 14th, 2014 – 

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Dynamic leaders will be honored and celebrated on this night of wonder.  SEE INFO Here for sponsorship packages.

 

 

ON-GOING EVENTS FOR 2014 – 

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FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003

 

 

Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!

 

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-Kahlelah, MYGirls

MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 1)

ATTENTION ALL YOUNG GIRLS:

*~ The MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday, at 6:00pm Pacific Standard Time. ~*

Greetings, outstanding young girls!!

Hopefully, by now, you all have been able to follow the MYGirls Blog Series  These blog entries, along with suggested reads from @, @, and @, are here for your viewing pleasure, as well as to provide insight and tips on how to be successful in school, build & maintain friendships, improve on home-based routines and responsibilities, and overall navigate through life in general.  We bloggers speak to you from experience, to both inspire and prepare you for what’s to come in the near (and distant future).

So far within the MYGirls Blog Series, we have covered Social Media Etiquette, Appearance & Personal Hygiene (broken into two parts), and Academics.  Today’s topic (now broken into two parts) will zero in on something that affects all young girls, worldwide:  Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 1).

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Leadership & Self-Esteem are extremely important to me when it comes to young girls, because they are things that young girls struggle with everyday.  But what is a leader?  A leader is someone who can make decisions with a sound mind, considering both the pros and cons of a particular situation.  A leader is someone who takes initiative, without having to be instructed to do so.  A leader is responsible, and holds him- or herself accountable for any mishaps.  A leader is knowledgeable, in one or many areas, by either study or experience.  Simply put, a leader handles business, and other people trust in leaders.  Many young girls lack the traits needed (confidence, bravery, ambition, strength, focus) to exhibit effective leadership.

This is largely because girls are typically discouraged from displaying their leadership abilities, and because the two go hand-in-hand, such discouragement directly affects their levels of self-esteem.  discouraged_child-250x250

Many times in school, girls are teased for raising their hands if they can answer questions presented to the class by their teachers.  How many of you young girls have been called offensive names like, “goody two-shoes?”  What about “know-it-all?”  I know I have, when I was your age.  Girls are often ridiculed for showing their intelligence, and it is treated as though it were against what society considers normal girl behavior.  In many cultures around the world, girls are discouraged or even restricted by law from learning anything outside of domestic duties (cooking, cleaning, raising children, being a wife).  Because boys grow to be the men who will lead the families & communities and males are to protect females, it is believed that a boy’s worldly education is more important, whereas a girl’s focus should be on homemaking skills.  It is believed that males are supposed to lead and females are supposed to follow (by nature, which is a topic that should be taught by your parent(s) ).  While all cultures are different in their traditions, it is no secret that girls are unfortunately kept from expanding their minds beyond what is accepted by their families, friends, and others in society. Attending school, which would take their minds away from the home, is definitely out of the question.

Here in America, girls are able to attend and participate in school, however the treatment isn’t too far off from being discouraged from attending school altogether.  Girls are usually shy, and that shyness is fueled by fear of being put on the spot by their peers.  A fellow student, most commonly a boy, will blurt out a joke in an attempt to embarrass a girl, and silence her from speaking up any further in class.

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Young girls, I’d love to know, and I’m sure you’d like to know within yourselves:

  • Do you find yourselves raising your hands slowly, and halfway in the air, to avoid attracting too much attention to yourselves?  When the teacher calls on you, do you answer in a low-toned voice?
  • Do you have trouble making eye contact, or do you hold your head down when speaking?
  • Do you say “I’m sorry,” “excuse me,” or “I don’t mean to . . . ,” more than necessary?
  • Do you find yourselves holding back on correct answers?  Do you hold back on your thoughts and opinions?
  • Do you hold back on group projects, for fear of being called “bossy” if you can facilitate the progression of group work?  Do you adhere to when people say that you can’t be in charge?

 

Young girls, I’ve been there before.  I know what it feels like to second-guess yourself because someone has challenged your thinking . . . even when I know I had the right answer.  I know what it feels like to not put my all into a class project, for fear of being called names.  I know what it feels like to not be sure of the sound of my own voice, and to speak timidly.  It is a painful feeling, and believe me, I know how it feels:  it’s like we’re expected to be clueless, and then ridiculed for being clueless.  Seems like a losing battle, doesn’t it?  Well young girls, I’m here to tell you, it’s not.  As a matter of fact young girls, it’s not a battle at all.  Especially, if we don’t make it one, or allow it to become one.  self-esteem

 

Young girls, there will always be people who will try to divert your attention away from your goals.  There will always be people who will try to discourage you from achieving.  There will always be people who will doubt your skills, your smarts, your intelligence, your potential . . . and many of those people will do so simply because you are a girl.  Many will try to take control of your confidence and self-esteem levels.  Well young girls, this is where YOU come in.

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And each one of these traits, can be found in each and every one of you wonderful young girls.  Each of you has the ability to master every trait listed in this fun illustration.  It would be damaging to believe that girls cannot be powerful, or ambitious, or outspoken.  It would diminish the confidence in a girl who is ridiculed for giving a presentation in front of her class.  Consider these words, your self-esteem boosters.  Utilize your tools, these boosters!!  Because I can bet that if each one of you amazing young girls repeats each word listed here in the above illustration, in the mirror, affirming it by first saying “I am,” and then each word right after . . . what I believe in you, you will be believe in you, too!

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Remember young girls, all great leaders didn’t start out that way.  Not everybody believed in them.  BUT, they found what they were good at, and excelled, becoming a leader (or expert) in that particular activity.  They fought through failures (which are only temporary setbacks), they continued on despite naysayers, they believed in themselves even when others around them didn’t.  Boys and girls are fit to be leaders, and it doesn’t have to be in the same activity, line of work, belief or practice, etc.  Remember that there will always be people who will purposely try to put you down.  However, you continue on regardless.  Girls are just as valuable, just as important, just as special, and just as powerful as boys . . . all in your own ways.  A boy might lead in math, a girl might lead in science.  A boy might lead in history, a girl might lead in social studies.  A boy my lead in business management, a girl might lead in economics.  A boy might lead in a group project based on art.  A girl might lead a group project based on literature.  Both might lead in finance.  Both might lead in politics.  Both might lead in medicine.  See?  We ALL can be leaders!  So young girls, let doubters (or, as many of you say, “haters”) motivate you to excel even further than you thought you could!  Those who try to discourage you, might be intimidated by you . . . so, let them be!  The only person you can control, is you.  The only person you have something to prove to, is yourself.  So make yourselves proud, young girls!  Prove yourselves right!

Believe that you achieve goals, and excel in school.  Believe that your voices matter.  Believe that YOU matter.  Don’t fear raising your hands if you know the right answers . . . be afraid of keeping it to yourselves!  Be afraid of NOT letting your lights shine!  Do not be afraid to be who & what you are! Screen-Shot-2014-03-10-at-11.27.06-AM

Our last GU4AP / MYGirls event on July 12, 2014, “Park Beautification Day” in Moreno Valley, CA, incorporated a Leadership workshop from Ban Bossy, an initiative brought to you by Lean In & Girl Scouts of the USA.  The Ban Bossy website has various downloadable activity & workshop booklets for students, teachers, parents, and troop leaders.  Each booklet contains several facts regarding females in school settings, the workforce, and environments in which girls interact with their friends.  I encourage you all to check out these booklets, as MYGirls will be using them for our upcoming Mentor / Mentee workshops.

As I conclude, young girls, I want to leave you with another list of self-esteem boosters:

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Though all of these tips may not apply to your lives, some of them will . . . so utilize your tools, your boosters!!

Next Friday’s blog:  Competition, and “Frenemies” (Part 2)

-Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

MYEvents: Thursday, September 18, 2014 – Wednesday, September 24, 2014

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Hi there, outstanding young girls!!

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

 

 

MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!

 

Sunday, September 21, 2014 – 

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Hair stylists from across America will come together for a chance to be honored as the Bobbi Boss 2014 “America’s Next Top Stylist.”  CLICK HERE for information, stylist registration, and consumer tickets. (I will be one of the models on the runway!)

 

Thursday, September 25, 2014

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The mission of the South Los Angeles Homeless Transition Age Youth (TAY) and Foster Care Collaborative is to prevent and end youth homelessness in South Los Angeles.  RSVP Here to register for the community event to help end homelessness within our youth.

 

Saturday, October 4, 2014 – 

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Inspirational community leaders will come together with Charlotte’s Korner, Inc., to encourage, empower, and uplift our youth, as various issues concerning our teens will be discussed.  CLICK HERE for more information, or how to become a volunteer, vendor, or guest speaker.  (I will be one of the guest speakers . . . updated flyer coming soon.)

 

Friday, November 14th, 2014 – 

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Dynamic leaders will be honored and celebrated on this night of wonder.  SEE INFO Here for sponsorship packages.

 

 

ON-GOING EVENTS FOR 2014 – 

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FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003

 

 

Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!

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-Kahlelah, MYGirls

Girls Unite 4 A Purpose, “MYGirls” Blog Series

Greetings beautiful young girls!!

 

Welcome to Girls Unite 4 A Purpose!!  GU4AP is an organization geared towards inspiring and uplifting females, from young girls to adults, in efforts to encourage confidence, leadership, and self-esteem, as they move through life’s various endeavors & obstacles.  We seek to stress to importance of love & respect for one another, teamwork, cultivating strong alliances & friendships, and service to others.

That being said, GU4AP would like to introduce the “MYGirls” Blog Series, a collection of entries zeroing in on issues that affect young girls, ages 8-18.  The “MYGirls” Blog Series will offer sound advice by illustrating fictitious scenarios that may be familiar in the lives of our girls, as well as personal experience(s) from our Mentors.  The blog series will also open the opportunity for discussions between our Mentors and Mentees, to hopefully break down any fear or shyness when approaching certain subject matter.

Over the next few months (or however much time it may take), the “MYGirls” Blog Series will contain blog entries based on the following subjects:

 

  • Social Media Etiquette
  • Appearance & Personal Hygiene
  • Academics
  • Leadership & Self-Esteem
    –Competition, “Frenemies”
  • Safety
    –Rape, Self-Defense
  • Health
    –Diet
    –Exercise
    –Mentality

 

There will be certain blog entries specifically for our girls, ages 12-18 (for these entries, we do advise having a parent or legal guardian present, to read along with you):

 

  • Commitment, Loyalty, and Relationships
    –Contraception, Sex
  • Health
    –Menstruation

 

We at Girls Unite 4 A Purpose (GU4AP) want you young girls to know that we are here for you.  We know that you may have questions, concerns, and worries, and we hope that the information we share will give you insight, along with the courage to press forward through life’s challenges.  You have a safe space in the “MYGirls” Program . . . consider this your 2nd home!!

 

–Kahlelah, “MYGirls”

 

[2] Heal Our Youth: Dealing With Depression…

I have a renewed appreciation for peace of mind and lifestyle after dealing with depression. Even though I learned about the effective preventative methods in terms of depression in my graduate public health courses, I wasn’t prepared for a personal lesson with dealing with depression.
In my case, I was dealing with depression because I was in a toxic relationship with an individual. I felt hopeless, frustrated, and confused as to how I slipped into the state of depression. My mentality was intoxicated from the mental and emotional abuse I experienced in the relationship. Fully aware of my depression, I isolated myself because I was ashamed for others to see me in this manner. I was normally the person in my circle who would encourage others, but this time I needed help.
After a huge fight with that individual, I made a decision that I would fight through this and get out of the rut. Now, I had tried several times before, but this time, I had the right tools and team behind me.
First, I strengthened my relationship with God. I had to go back to my Creator to discover who He created me to be. After a while, I began to realize that God didn’t purpose for me to be abused and hurt. He wants me to have a happy and fulfilling life. It was time for me to live out the purpose that God had planned for me.
Secondly, I began attending therapy services, which I continue to this day. My therapist, Monica, and Sound Mind Counseling Services have truly helped me get back on the path towards my destiny. One of the most important lessons I learned was to focus on the truth. For nearly 7 years, I focused on the little bit of truth wrapped in deceit and lies. I needed to take time to discover the truth about the situation so that I could heal.
Next, I cut off the relationship. That was one of the hardest decisions that I had to make but was necessary for me to do. I needed to focus on me rather than trying to save a dead relationship. It was very difficult at first, but I learned to enjoy being alone and focusing on developing healthy relationships. Once that person was out of my life, I could work on my mental health and recovering from depression.
Lastly, I made the decision that I would share my story so that others won’t have to experience depression. I realize that there is a purpose to my pain.
Today, I use the tools I have learned in therapy along with my faith in God to keep me out of the rut to keep moving forward in my purpose.  I know that you can break free from the bonds of depression because there were times when I wasn’t sure I could be free, but I am enjoying freedom now! You can make it!
Ashley Hill, MPH
College Success Coach

My Journey to Success: Blending One Color at a Time

“Jolisa, we would love to have you apart of our team, you are hired for the position and I would like to welcome you to our company!” 
            As I woke up from my dream, I then knew that one day my dreams would soon become a reality. Growing up, I always wondered what my talents were.  I attempted to sing, play basketball for years, learn the keyboard, write plays, but with the pressure to find out what it is that I am good at, I realized that one day, the gift that God has given me would one day show itself. 
            Attending college and obtaining a degree was no option in my life. It was imperative that I enroll in a University immediately following my graduation from high school and pursue a career in the medical field.  Upon my second quarter of college, I realized that studying pre-medicine and pursuing the necessary degree to become a Pediatrician was not what I had intended it to be. Although I had loved the idea of working with children, I realized being in a hospital setting was not the appropriate career choice for me.  It was at that moment, that I realized I wanted to use my interest of beauty and makeup to pursue a degree that could be beneficial within that realm of such a growing industry. I finally came to the conclusion that with a degree in Psychology, I would be able to continue to mentor and provide therapy to children in a setting where I could reach out to the community, while also using it within the beauty industry.
            Upon taking various Psychology classes, the topics of self-esteem and confidence began to play a role in my life.  I began to use my passion of makeup artistry and take it to the next level.  By that, I would volunteer to do makeup around my campus as a way to make women feel beautiful.  I wanted to provide a service that I enjoyed to be able to make other feel good about themselves.  With much practice, support and prayer, I had finally realized what my talent was.  God gave me the gift of makeup artistry! 
            Society always says “practice makes perfect” and I hold that quote close to my heart.  While attending school, I realized how much I loved makeup artistry and wanted to pursue a job within that field.  Like most makeup lovers, I knew that I wanted to work for MAC Cosmetics.  I knew that was the job for me because I loved people and I loved makeup.  With having this dream job in my mind, I began to focus and work hard at obtaining a position with this company.  I would continuously practice makeup on friends, network within the University, and most importantly, practice on myself.  I would take pictures of every makeup look and presented my work in a portfolio for future clients.  With much time and practice with perfecting my craft, I felt that I was ready to work for one of the best cosmetic companies in the world.
            My first attempt at applying to MAC, I was told that they were not hiring, but I could bring in a resume. Although I was nervous, I was determined to get a job with this company. The next time I walked into the store, I brought my portfolio and my resume, the manager then gave me an application form and at that moment I was so excited to have made it to the next step; however, what I thought was the next step, was just merely a tease.
            For 2 years, I was persistent in applying and bringing various MAC locations my resume.  I would often receive the same response from all locations, but I did not let that tear me down. I would bring in multiple resumes, talk to different workers and managers; however, I felt that I was getting nowhere.  I knew I wanted this job but I did not know it would have been so difficult. Throughout this process, multiple people told me about the difficult hiring process MAC has and that it would take me awhile to get in the company.  With having God on my side, I knew that I could not let negativity over take my mind and that I just needed to remain focused on accomplishing my dream job.  With receiving much feedback, I realized that it was imperative that I push myself to accomplish my goal because I had so many people watching and waiting as well and I did not want to let them down.
            The time finally came for my college graduation, and I still was not working for MAC.  I was starting to get depressed and question whether this was really the field for me. I would seek God and ask for guidance and for that one door to open up.  I began to think, “maybe I should just pursue psychology and just do makeup for fun”, but I knew that wasn’t my final decision and I just could not give up so easily.
            With graduating, I had to move back home. I was unemployed for 6 months and was still trying to apply to MAC in surrounding areas so that I could move.  I also began to put in multiple applications to various jobs, some that I knew I would not enjoy working, but at that point in my life, I was desperate to settle for any employment. While I was busy stressing,  I now know that God was busy putting my plan together.
            In September 2011, I received a call to interview for a job within the psychology department.  Unfortunately, I was not “qualified” enough for the position. After attending the interview, I decided to finally go into the MAC location in my hometown.  I had no intention on dropping off a resume but a little voice inside told me to go home print my information and head to the counter.  I went to the counter, asked for a manager and provided my information.  At that moment the assistant manager says, “ I am the assistant is there anything I can do?” I handed her my resume and as she looked at it, she was very pleased with my presentation. She then asked me “ are you available for an interview next Friday? “ At that moment I just began to pray that God work out this job, especially because it was only 10 minutes from my home.  After 2 years of trying to get this job, I had finally obtained an interview.
            My interview was a success and I was asked to continue on with the process however, it was taking awhile to hear back from management. I then decided to go to another location about 40 minutes from my home and apply as well.  When I say everything happens at the right time, it truly does. Within a month, after going to both locations in that area multiple times, I had received an interview. By December 2011, I was HIRED with MAC Cosmetics!!!!! The joy I had was indescribable.  To finally work for a company I had been trying to work for since I was in my 3rd year of college.
            Now that I had received the position of a freelancer, I was told that permanent positions are hard to come by within the company. After only being a freelancer for one MONTH, I was hired as a permanent employee with MAC cosmetics.  The feeling that I had was an overbearing joy. I cried tears of happiness as I signed my papers and was proud of myself that I did NOT give up! I stuck out through the stress, negativity, the turn downs, etc and at last, I had received a job which I wanted and I did not have to settle.
            Six months later, I am still pursuing my dreams by working my dream job and steadily growing within the industry. Although I will always have my Psychology degree as a backup plan, I am much happier pursuing a career where I can help the women within the community feel good about themselves.  My story of persistence, dedication, and having faith has brought me to where I am now.  Set a goal for yourself and accomplish that goal.  Pursue your dreams and never give up.  A word I live by from someone I adore and really look up to and keeps me going is “Never Say Never”-Justin Beiber. Never doubt yourself and never allow others to tell you that you can’t. I am now doing something I love and that is changing the lives of women, blending one color at a time.
By: Jolisa Jackson