MYGirls Care: Depression -Discussion

PARENTS: Do you know what’s going on in your child’s life?

Are they a bully?
Do they suffer from depression?
Do you know your child as well as you think?
Communication is key!

MENTORS: How do you assist with helping youth who deal with depression, bi-polar, and suicide?

Also please leave links & names of programs/organizations you work for/with?

If you deal with any of the above, please email us.
We Care ❤

[2] Heal Our Youth: Dealing With Depression…

I have a renewed appreciation for peace of mind and lifestyle after dealing with depression. Even though I learned about the effective preventative methods in terms of depression in my graduate public health courses, I wasn’t prepared for a personal lesson with dealing with depression.
In my case, I was dealing with depression because I was in a toxic relationship with an individual. I felt hopeless, frustrated, and confused as to how I slipped into the state of depression. My mentality was intoxicated from the mental and emotional abuse I experienced in the relationship. Fully aware of my depression, I isolated myself because I was ashamed for others to see me in this manner. I was normally the person in my circle who would encourage others, but this time I needed help.
After a huge fight with that individual, I made a decision that I would fight through this and get out of the rut. Now, I had tried several times before, but this time, I had the right tools and team behind me.
First, I strengthened my relationship with God. I had to go back to my Creator to discover who He created me to be. After a while, I began to realize that God didn’t purpose for me to be abused and hurt. He wants me to have a happy and fulfilling life. It was time for me to live out the purpose that God had planned for me.
Secondly, I began attending therapy services, which I continue to this day. My therapist, Monica, and Sound Mind Counseling Services have truly helped me get back on the path towards my destiny. One of the most important lessons I learned was to focus on the truth. For nearly 7 years, I focused on the little bit of truth wrapped in deceit and lies. I needed to take time to discover the truth about the situation so that I could heal.
Next, I cut off the relationship. That was one of the hardest decisions that I had to make but was necessary for me to do. I needed to focus on me rather than trying to save a dead relationship. It was very difficult at first, but I learned to enjoy being alone and focusing on developing healthy relationships. Once that person was out of my life, I could work on my mental health and recovering from depression.
Lastly, I made the decision that I would share my story so that others won’t have to experience depression. I realize that there is a purpose to my pain.
Today, I use the tools I have learned in therapy along with my faith in God to keep me out of the rut to keep moving forward in my purpose.  I know that you can break free from the bonds of depression because there were times when I wasn’t sure I could be free, but I am enjoying freedom now! You can make it!
Ashley Hill, MPH
College Success Coach

[1] Heal Our Youth: Dealing With Depression…

Many medical articles refer to hypertension or even obesity as society’s “silent killer”. In reality, depression can be just as deadly and in my opinion should be referred to as an “unvoiced killer”. What’s the difference between “silent” and “unvoiced”? Well “silent” can be defined as declining to speak or remaining quiet whereas “unvoiced” can be defined as the INABILITY to speak; the difference is one’s ability.

Depression may be perceived as a simple or ridiculous emotion by those who haven’t been experienced it themselves, however the saddened mood is more than tears or frowns, it truly is an illness. Depression is powerful as it can deter an individual’s appetite to eat and even create thoughts for someone to feel as if the only way to be free and relieved is to take their own life.

Speaking from experience, depression is difficult to explain hence “unvoiced” and only a victim can truly understand the plead of another victim. The feelings of not being able to smile or crying daily can be uncontrollable and exhausting, causing a deeper depression.

My advice for those who have been acquainted with depression is to hold on and find some higher power. I understand everyone is not religious, however as simple human beings, we only have so much emotional strength. In dealing with depression, the most helpful resource is being able to vent your worries and insecurities without being laughed at or judged. Sometimes such venting is most effective through prayer or even meditation rather than to one of our own.

A second tip is for you to accept the fact that no individual can please everyone. Take the suffocating pressure off yourself by understanding that we are not superhuman creatures; We will make mistakes and have vulnerable moments in life. Its okay to fall if you learn from it, don’t allow depression to sneak up on you during hard times. You must keep your focus on something higher than yourself because you probably don’t recognize or trust yourself in a depressed mood.

Helpful quotes:
“That’s the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it’s impossible to ever see the end.”
― Elizabeth Wurtzel, Prozac Nation

“There is no point treating a depressed person as though she were just feeling sad, saying, ‘There now, hang on, you’ll get over it.’ Sadness is more or less like a head cold- with patience, it passes. Depression is like cancer.”
― Barbara Kingsolver, The Bean Trees

Dominique English (MYGirls Event Coordinator)