Correcting Minor Imperfections and Blemishes

Hello!

I’ve been trying to focus on posts that are probably a little bit ‘make-up basic knowledge’ to begin with. I hope nobody minds that I’ve done this so far! I feel it’s a good starting point to me posting on this blog, as it would be a great starting point for any readers who don’t know a lot about make-up and wish to can learn these little tips and tricks, before I start posting any make-up tutorials or reviews!

Photo from Orthofill Blog

This post is focusing on correcting what you may consider as imperfections with a few little make-up tricks.

Concealers

Concealers come in a variety of different forms. Such as:

  • Liquids – apply with a sponge
  • Powder – apply with brush or cotton wool
  • Stick – apply with brush or fingers
  • Compact – apply with a brush or cotton wool

Not only can you get different forms as above, but you can also purchase different colours; green, lilac, beige/tawny tones. These colours are used for different purposes. The greens are ideal for covering up any redness in your skin, the lilac toned concealers help to cover up any sallow skin, and the beige/tawny toned concealers are your standard skin coloured concealers usually available in a range of shades which are mostly used to cover up blemishes.

Complexions

  • If you have a highly coloured or vascular complexion, the best thing to do is to use a green based concealer. It’s ideal to apply the green based concealer before you apply your foundation, otherwise if you apply a little too much of the concealer, you can sometimes have the green showing over your foundation. The green base helps to tone down the colour.
  • If you have an uneven blotchy or veined complexions, medium beige and tawny tones can be used to balance the tones of your skin to match and appear less noticeable. If there are any prominent veins you can use skin toned concealers to help cover them up a little more if you wish to.
  • If you have a sallow skin or pigmented complexion a lilac based concealer is ideal. This will tone down the sallow complexion. Again, the same as the green concealer, this should be applied before the foundation. Any pigmentation can be covered with corrective creams before the foundation is applied also.

Minor Imperfections

  • Dark under eye circles

Apply a little concealer under your eyes to cover it up, but be sure to not apply too much. You can also use a lilac based concealer if you prefer.

  • Dehydrated skin

Make sure to use a cream foundation and only a small amount of powder. Powder can make your skin dry up and also can make any dry patches of skin more noticeable! (Trust me, I’ve learnt this from unfortunate experience!) It’s also best to use a cream blusher as opposed to a powder, for the same reason as above!

  • Puffy under eyes

Apply highlighter around the area and shader directly onto the puffy area. Make sure to blend the two areas together nicely so that it’s not noticeable.

  • Thread veins and high colouring

These can be toned down and hidden by using a green toned moisturiser or concealer under your foundation.

  • Lined lips

This is mostly common in more mature people, and if this is the case, you may find that your lipstick can “bleed” into the area surrounding your lips. You can correct this by applying foundation to your lips and setting it with a powder. Next, line your lip shape using a lip pencil or a lip brush, make sure to keep this line slightly within your natural lip line. Using a lip brush, set the liner with a loose powder and then fill in the inside area with colour.

  • Blemishes (spots or whiteheads)

You can actually get medicated concealers, however if not use your normal concealer. Apply a few very thin coats as opposed to one thick one. Make sure that you use a concealer that is as close to your natural skin colour as you can, otherwise this can make blemishes stand out a little more! Concealer shades can be blended together to match your skin tone perfectly.

  • Superfluous hair (unwanted facial hair)

Avoid cake foundations and use liquid, moisturised or all-in-one foundations. Only if necessary, apply a very small amount of powder. Also be careful to apply any products in a downwards motion to avoid clogging any hairs.

  • Age lines

The aim with age lines is to make them appear fuller! Use a lighter coloured foundation to highlight within the folds of these little lines. However, make sure that not too much foundation falls into or settles in these lines, otherwise it can end up making them look like deep lines!

  • Freckles and moles

You can purchase covering foundation creams or blemish sticks which are usually a little thicker and are better to colour up darker marks such as moles. You must be careful to make sure that this cream or blemish stick matches the tone of your foundation perfectly, otherwise they can make the area stand out!

I hope that this little post was helpful to anyone who had any queries about covering up little blemishes and how to do it correctly! Thank you for reading!

Also if anybody wishes for me to write a post on anything in particular, just comment and let me know and I will try and get your requests written up!

Emily Jean

[VIDEO] Fashion Friday – How to Stretch Your Shoes

So you may have bought a pair of heels for prom, a wedding, church, or to wear whenever you go out and notice they’re a little too tight! You could take them back but you like them too much right? Well check out this awesome video by MahoganiTV where she shows how you can stretch your heels

Let us know if you’ve tried this before or plan on trying this. I know I will 🙂

The Basics of Contouring for Your Face Shape

Hello again!

I just want to say thank you to those of you who have read and enjoyed my previous post, I was so happy to be receiving likes on my first post!

Today I’m going to go through some basics that I’ve learnt in college for highlighting and shading and which areas you should focus on for your face shape. Like I said, they are very basic, but I hope it can help you in learning a little about contouring!

Everyone’s face shapes are different, but there are general shapes you can put your face too: oval, oblong, rectangular, heart, square, triangular, round, diamond and inverted triangle. It’s seen that the oval face shape is the ideal shape to have due to the symmetry of the face, so shading and highlighting is all about “correcting” (so to speak) the shape to give the illusion that you have an oval face shape.

Before I jump into things there are a few things to know about shaders and highlighters and a couple of tips:

Highlighting

  • Highlighters should be up to three shades LIGHTER than your skin tone.
  • You can use cream or powder products.
  • Foundation, specialised highlighter products, powders or white/off white/iridescent eye shadows are ideal to use.
  • Highlighting is used to accentuate areas, making them more prominent.
  • Highlighting is especially flattering when applied to your cheekbones!
  • Highlighting can make areas look larger or fuller, depending on how you use your shader alongside it.

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  1. Apply down the centre of your nose to make the nose appear longer and thinner.
  2. If you have deep set eyes or dark circles, apply under your eyes to minimise the dark circles.
  3. If you have deep set and small eyes, apply on your eye lids to make your eyes appear larger.
  4. If you have a receding chin and want to bring it forward, apply highlighter onto your chin.
  5. If you wish to make your face appear wider and fuller, apply to your cheeks.
  6. If you would like your neck to appear fuller, apply highlighter to the sides of your neck.

Shading

  • Shaders should be up to three shades DARKER than your skin tone.
  • Again, you can use cream or powder products.
  • Shading is used to take attention away from areas by almost fading them away.
  • You should avoid using shaders on areas of your face that may have excessive facial hair.
  • Shading can make areas appear slimmer or smaller if you also highlight in the correct places.

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  1. If you have a wide nose and wish to make it appear smaller, apply shader to the sides of your nose.
  2. If you have a wide face and would like it to appear more slender, apply shader to the sides of your face and your cheeks.
  3. If you wish to diminish heavy lids and prominent eyes, apply to your eye lids.
  4. If you wish to make a protruding forehead look less prominent, apply shader to your forehead.
  5. If you want to shorten a long face or to diminish a protruding chin, apply shader to your chin.
  6. If you have a double chin you wish to put into shadow, apply shader under your chin.

Correcting Face Shapes

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Triangular Face

Typically the triangular face has a wide jaw line and a narrow forehead.
For a triangular face you are focusing on slimming down the bottom area of your face and making the top of your face seem wider. For this you should shade at the sides of you face to your cheeks – without going past the cheekbone. The highlighter should be applied to the corners of your forehead, this will give the illusion that your forehead is slightly wider.

Oblong Face

The oblong face is long and narrow.
If your face is horizontally long you should focus on shading the corners of your face, such as each side of the forehead and the sides of your face and cheeks, again this slims your face down. Highlighter should be placed down the centre of your face – forehead, down your nose and your chin – this gives the illusion that your face is longer vertically, as opposed to horizontally.

If your face is vertically long, avoid highlighting in the middle of your face as this will make your face appear longer. Instead focus on highlighting the sides of your face, so that it appears wider, and shading your forehead and chin to reduce the length.

Oval Face

As said previously, this is seen to be the ideal face shape, so really there is no “correcting” needed as all styles of make-up suit this face shape. However, a bit of highlighter on your cheek bones and some shader below your cheek bones can be really flattering.

Round Face

A round face is noticed as short and broad, with full and rounded cheeks.
If you shade the sides of your cheeks this gives the impression your have a more slender face. If you highlight the centre of your face – forehead, nose and chin – this will lengthen the face.

Heart Shaped Face

Recognised by a wide forehead and your face narrowing to the jaw line.
You should focus on highlighting your jawline to give the impression that it is wider, and shading your forehead will reduce the breadth of it.

Square Face

An angular jaw line and a wide forehead with full cheeks.
You should really focus on shading the corners of your face to give a softer curve to the shape of your face.

I feel like this has been a very short and basic post, but there’s not really a lot to shading and highlighting if you know what face shape you have and how to use both shaders and highlighters to your advantage. When you have applied shaders and highlighters, do not forget to make sure it’s all blended nicely together! You don’t want to have any harsh or noticeable lines between shaders and highlighters, otherwise this won’t give the effect you are hoping for.

I hope this answers anyone’s questions, if they had any, about shading, highlighting and really the basics of contouring!

I do, however, want to introduce you to a lovely young lady I know who uploads some wonderful make-up tutorials onto YouTube. She’s recently done a video of her Flawless Foundation Routine and she uses highlighting and shading in her routine! It’s a really fantastic video and I hope watching Katy doing this routine (applying, blending etc.) will help!

Click here to watch ItsLittleMissOutcast’s video on her Flawless Foundation Routine!

Take care, girls!

Emily Jean

Dear Younger Me Campaign Recap + Kahlelah’s Dear Younger Me Letter

DearYoungerMeCampaignRecapIn case you missed our Dear Younger Me Campaign in February here’s a recap of what you missed…

From left to right clockwise we have: LaShawn, Denieccee, and Ashley (our Founder)

LaShawn – “The things that I have endured have not in anyway destroyed me. It has instead provided with me the opportunity to learn a lot of different things about myself now and before. I appreciate every experience and I know that God has continuously ordered my steps. Thank you younger me for every stepping stone because now I am able to be a better adult!”

 DeniecceeSleeping with James, Earl, Bo, and Tim does not make you sexy.  It doesn’t make you desired.  It does make you easy and trashy.  You are worth so much more than that.  You are smarter than that. To validate yourself through a guy that won’t give 3 shakes about you later….nah!  Save that.  God has a good man for you, that will adore you and treat that son that you are going to have in a few years like gold!

 AshleyAlright, well you’ll lose your best friend to Alzheimer’s Disease and you won’t know until it’s too late. He won’t be around to see you go to prom nor will he make it to see you graduate from high school. You fought a great fight during high school & it hurts that he won’t be there to witness the blood, sweat & tears you put in to get here. But I’m HERE TO TELL YOU you got this baby!

DearYoungerMeCampaignRecap3From left to right clockwise we have: Chrisselle, Tiara, and Juaquina (Care Package Recruiter)

Chrisselle – “In a few years you’re going to meet people who are going to change your life, at times it won’t feel like it’s for the best, but in the long term it is. They’re going to make you stronger, wiser and braver than you ever thought you could be. You’re going to use these qualities to change other people’s lives and I guarantee you that that will be the best feeling in the world.

 Tiara – “THERE ARE MEN WHO FIND MORALS AND SELF RESPECT TO BE ATTRACTIVE THINGS. IF THAT’S WHAT YOU WANT… YOU WAIT FOR THAT.

 Juaquina – “Our ears hear two different things, but it’s the same lie…We even speak differently…Every other thing you utter is profanity…I choose to select my words a little bit more carefully…But I dare not judge you….for you are me.

DearYoungerMeCampaignRecap2From left to right clockwise we have: Undrea, Cathy, & Kahlelah (MYGirls Mentor & PR Member)

Undrea – “For many years of your young life you had to endure peer pressure and the very damaging words that were thrown at you. You were so bruised by the constant bullying and that made you withdrawn and deeply depressed for a long time. I wish I could go back in time to comfort you and tell you that even though you felt as if you were drowning, you could recover from those emotional wounds and slowly heal. Never let the world define you. Define yourself!”

Cathy – “Now there are two things that we’ve got to get settled, please don’t hide your light!! You are a force to be reckoned with and those who are worthy of you, will never ever try to dim you. You think that playing small will make people love you and feel less threatened by you but it won’t. You will only feel stifled and trapped in a hell of your own making. Live free, young one, you have so many gifts to share but you will waste time if you don’t head my advice.

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Why You May Want to Sign-up to Become a MYGirls Member?

So you’re probably thinking “What are the benefits  for myself or child to sign-up for your program?” Good question!

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We offer mentorship: which is a bond and relationship between a mentor (woman) and a mentee to offer support. We find that a lot of times young girls and girls in general want  and NEED an outlet with someone that isn’t in their current circle (family or friends) and could offer everyday advice. A mentor is assigned to each girl as a positive individual who wants the best for their mentee.

Trips: We want to take small trips that are educational and fun but in order to meet those needs we must have the commitment from our parents and mentees to be on board when the time comes. So if you’re interested in visiting local colleges, attending fairs, and museums this is for you!

Community service: we like to give back in different communities whether its through putting on a clothing drive, cleaning a park or collaborating with other organizations to give back during an event.

Workshops: We offer many free and at times a low fee on workshops that are beneficial for girls today. A few are self esteem related, college prep, leadership, and relational.

Scholarships: We offer one lucky high school senior a chance to win a scholarship toward college expenses. We tend to choose a school in the Inland Empire and offer a scholarship for $100+ from donations we receive, but this offer maybe exclusive for MYGirls members soon.

Diversity: You get to meet girls of different races, backgrounds and cities. A great way to network and build positive relationships in different areas. You never know who can help you when you least expect it. It’ll also expand your circle in a positive way.

These are a few reasons why you may want to become a MYGirls member. We’re currently taking new applicants for FREE. You don’t want to miss out on what’s to come. If you’re interested and want a application or have any questions you can email us at mentoringyg@gmail.com

 

Identifying Your Skin Type and Knowing Which Products to Buy!

Hello ladies!
I’m the newbie blogger here on MYGirls, and I’m so happy to be a part of the team and to share my thoughts and opinions with you all!
 
So, before I get into my post I thought I’d introduce myself quickly: My name is Emily, I’m 19 and from a little town in England. I study Beauty Therapy at college and I’m hoping to go into a big mixture of beauty therapy, make-up artistry and wedding planning! I’m hoping to bring some beauty posts in regards to skincare, product reviews, make-up tutorials etc to the blog and I’m really excited to get this started.
 
Todays post I thought I’d start right at the beginning with a quick talk through skincare advice and how to spot what skin type you have. It might sound like a fairly basic topic, but I figured this would be a good starting point for my blogging on here, and also because I’ve noticed that quite a lot of people don’t really know a lot about their skin or what skin type they have.
There are three main categories for your skin type: Oily, dry and combination. Combination is the most common skin type in teenagers and is a mixture of dry/normal and oily skin, for example, a lot of people with combination skin type have an oilier T-Zone. The T-Zone is recognised as the area across your forehead, down your nose and your chin, as shown in the diagram below.
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Dry and oily skin types are pretty self explanatory in that they are just that – dry or oily. Dry skin can be recognised by flaking of the skin, whiteheads and your skin feeling tight. It isn’t uncommon for people with dry skin types to have dehydrated skin also, which usually is shown with broken capillaries. Broken capillaries can be recognised as small and fine red lines.
Oily skin can have a yellowish (known as sallow) complexion and you can generally feel the oil on your skin. Oily skin usually have larger, open pores. Your skin can show a shine if you have oily skin and it’s likely to get more pustules (spots) and papules (blind spots) with this skin type. Blind spots are recognised as a hard lump under your skin, it can usually show up a little red or pinkish and it is quite sore to touch. Unlike normal spots, there is no yellow head to these types of spots.
The oil in your skin is a natural oil that your body produces, called sebum. This oil is good for you skin as it helps to protect your skin in a lot of ways, however it’s about getting the balance right so that you achieve a healthy, hydrated, protected but non-oily, normal skin type. I’ve found that this can take a lot of experimenting with products and knowing what does and doesn’t suit you. So the more products you try out and look up, the more likely you are to achieve the ideal skin type!
Some good tips for your skin type:
Oily Skin:
  • Cleanse, tone and moisturise your skin twice a day. Morning and night is the perfect time for this!
  • Foaming cleansers are ideal for this skin type and should never be used on a dry skin type, as the chlorine and salts in tap water can make it worse.
  • Astringent toners have the highest level of alcohol and are ideal for oily skin types.
  • Oil free moisturiser contains no oil, only water and other ingredients added in. This is the perfect moisturiser for those with oily skin!
  • Moisturising lotion, containing 85-90% water and 10-15% oil, are also great for greasy skin and ideal for using it under your make-up!
  • Be patient! Don’t use products more often than they say on the tub as it will end up with you overusing the product, which can also cause your skin to become dry!
  • As your skin is oily, skin cells aren’t shed as quickly as that of a dry skin type. However, it is still important that you exfoliate your skin just ONCE a week to remove any dead skin cells and to keep your skin looking clean, healthy and fresh.
  • While pore grain exfoliants and clay exfoliants are both suitable for oily skin types, clay exfoliators are perhaps preferable as the clay absorbs the dead skin cells and takes up the excess sebum from your skin.
  • If you fancy pampering yourself with a mask, go for it! However if you have oily skin, it’s best to sway towards clay masks or thermal masks – which are both a type of setting mask which are generally used to absorb excess oil and help tighten your skin. However, biological masks are a non-setting mask which can be used on any skin type.
  • Peppermint and tea tree oils can help put any little pimples or acne at bay!

 

tea treeRecommended product (above): Superdrug’s own Tea Tree Oil Exfoliant!
Ideal for testing out the product, this 30ml tube is only ÂŁ1.05 or ÂŁ3.50 for a 100ml tube if you like the product!
Superdrug Exfoliating Cream Wash with natural tea tree and peppermint oils and aloe vera extract.”
Normal Skin:
  • For normal skin, products labelled as “balancing” are ideal!
  • Cleanse, tone and moisturise your skin twice a day. Morning and night is the perfect time for this!
  • Foaming cleanser is also suitable for a normal skin type.
  • Skin tonic toners are ideal for normal skin types, they are weaker than astringents (toning lotions).
  • Balancing products help to upkeep your skins natural oils without your skin becoming too dry or oily.
  • Normal skin needs to only be exfoliated ONCE a week! The same as oily skin, skin cells are not shed as often as they are for a dry skin type, but it is still important to keep your skin clean and refreshed with exfoliating.
  • Both clay and pore gran exfoliants can be used for normal skin types, however pore grains are perhaps better. As the clay exfoliator may dry up the skin slightly, the pore grains simple just rub off the dead skin cells!
  • Thermal masks are a great mask for normal skin types as it helps to bring your blood supply to the surface, helping to renew your skin cells.

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Recommended product (above): Bodyshop’s Seaweed Clarifying Toner!
Fabulous for combination-oily skin! If it’s not overused, this product is perfect for clearing up your skin! ÂŁ8 for 200ml is one incredible bargain!
This alcohol-free, refreshing and purifying toner helps to rebalance combination skin.”

Dry Skin:
  • Dry skin types should keep an eye out for “soothing” products. As dry skin types usually have either dry or sensitive skin as well, soothing products have the least/no alcohol content, meaning it will cause no irritation for your skin!
  • Cleanse, tone and moisturise your skin twice a day. Morning and night is the perfect time for this!
  • Cleansing milk is ideal for dry sensitive skin. It’s an oil in water emulsion, meaning that there is a higher level of water than oil in the product.
  • Cleansing cream is great for very dry or mature skin. It has a higher proportion of oil than water and is a thicker and creamy consistence.
  • Toners known as Fresheners are best for very dry or sensitive skin. It is the weakest toning lotion available and there is no alcohol included in the product.
  • Moisturising creams are best for a dry or mature skin as they contain 70-85% water and 15-30% oil.
  • Keep your skin well hydrated, drink plenty of water and use suitable non-perfumed moisturiser.
  • With having dry skin, your skin cells are shed and renewed a lot quicker than that of an oily skin. It is important to exfoliate TWICE a week to keep your skin looking fresh. The build up of dead skin cells can cause your skin to appear quite dull and it can also clog up your pores!
  • If you have sensitive skin, avoid using exfoliants with pore grains. These are usually cream or liquid based products which contain little spheres of plastic or crushed nuts. Any other skin type is fine, but this can heat up and irritate sensitive skin easily!
  • Clay exfoliators are perfect for sensitive skins. When it’s applied to the skin, it dries and absorbs dead skin cells and excess sebum (natural oil in your skin) is wiped away.
  • Non-setting masks are best for dry, dehydrated or sensitive skin types, as these types of mask focus on hydrating, soothing and nourishing the skin.
  • Warm oil masks soften the skin and restore the natural moisture balance in your skin. This is ideal for those with dry and dehydrated skin. A hot oil mask however would most benefit those with a mature skin.
  • Peel off masks, generally made from gel, latex or paraffin, are good for all skin types depending on their ingredients, however they are mostly ideal and effective on dry skins! These masks don’t allow moisture to escape through the mask, and therefore help the skin soften and soak up any moisture. A sensitive skin would benefit the most from a non-setting gel mask and a dry skin would mostly benefit from a paraffin wax mask!

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Recommended product (above): Bright Here Bright Now by Soap&Glory!
Perfect for moisturising and leaving your skin soft, and for only ÂŁ12 for 50ml, you can’t complain!
Soap & Glory™ Bright Here Bright Now™ cream has skin-perfecting LUMINOSPHERES™-SF, super moisturising ALOE VERA & APRICOT KERNEL OIL, plus Soap & Glory’s clinically proven, skin firming QUICKLIFT INSTANTIGHT 2™ technology. It lifts, energises, tightens and brightens – making dull skin simply dazzle.”

I hope that wasn’t too much information to take in, and I really hope this has helped anyone to identify their skin type or anyone who has been unsure of what types of products to look for to suit their skin! Hopefully you’ve found this post interesting, and I can’t wait to get started on my next post!

Take care, girls!

Emily Jean

Fashion Friday in Dubai!

Hello all you beautiful people, I hope you are all well and excited for the weekend.

If you don’t follow my personal blog then you probably won’t know that I am actually in Dubai at the moment, which is amazing. However it it very different to England, and a lot of the world. I found finding outfits to pack quite difficult as I should keep my shoulders and knees (and everything between) covered, as if adapting to the crazy heat wasn’t hard enough! So as I always do, I headed online to find inspiration for outfits. I started with looking on my usual websites for ideas and everything was too short or too revealing, then after a few hours of me getting more and more stressed I ended up typing things like ‘what to wear in Dubai’ and ‘what to pack for Dubai’ and I found that there is very little help online for outfit inspirations for travelling to places such as Dubai. It also doesn’t help that I am very petite so anything longer than my knee’s makes me look like I’ve gone missing from a snow white film. So I tried my best to make my outfits comply by the rules and be respectful to the locals yet still be somewhat fashionable and flattering.

I would just like to point out that tourists do not HAVE to be covered however I did not want to be disrespectful to the locals and I didn’t want to feel uncomfortable, so it was my choice to be covered up. I would suggest you stay covered up when travelling to anywhere in the UAE (I think in Abu Dhabi and Saudi Arabia the rules are to be covered, so you HAVE to cover up), even in Dubai the police and locals will stop you if you look too revealing and ask you to cover up slightly.

So today I thought I would share a few of the outfits I have worn so far, you’ll have to excuse the lack of make up and frizzy hair, it is incredible hot and humid here!

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Pink Dress – New Look

Shoes – Primark

Kimono – Internacionale

Head Band and Belt – New Look

Sunglasses – Stall at Reading Music Festival

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Colour Splash Flower Maxi Dress – Ax Paris

Green Cropped Cardi – Warehouse

Gold Statement Rings – New Look

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Black Cropped Cardi – F&F

Black Vest Top – New Look

Pink Flowy Trousers – Ebay

 

FlipFlops – Piping Hot flip flops

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Brown Dress – New Look

All other items have been worn in the other photographs.

 

So you can see a recurring theme in all of these pictures, lots of covering up thus complying with the rules, I’ve been respectful with the skin I am showing however had my own spin on the outfits. What do you think of my outfit choices and what would you suggest I wear?

As always, thank you for reading and I will see you next week for Fashion Friday! If there is anything in particular you would like me to style/talk about then please let me know.

Bex

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[Video] Our Founder Joined Girls of Royalty for Faith n Finance Month…

If you weren’t able to tune in Saturday to watch women of faith discuss their organization or business and answer questions along the way, you can check out that video to get more information about our organization, what we do, and our popular programs, as well as other common questions regarding small businesses and organizations.

Thank you Girls of Royalty for allowing us to be on a platform with other women who are striving to make a difference through their businesses and organizations. Knowing your purpose and having faith that God will supply your every need for the vision that He has given you definitely motives others.

Let us know what you think or if you have any questions about Girls Unite 4 A Purpose below in our comment section…

Want Cool “Girls Unite 4 A Purpose” Merchandise?

We want to know if you would be interested in supporting Girls Unite 4 A Purpose by sporting our merchandise! We’ve gotten great feedback from those in the streets of the Inland Empire & a few supporters but we want to know what you think?

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We did a trial run for the shirts photographed here just to get an idea. If we get enough feedback we plan on revamping the look. We assist girls throughout the U.S. for one purpose.

This trial run of shirts were used for the events we attending this month. You can see photos on our Facebook HERE

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We also plan on adding fashionable items that you all can wear to our events, school, church, party or everyday. There will be something for everyone who is interested in being fashionable!

Ps. If you’re a printing company and offer great prices, please contact us at mentoringyg@gmail.com

Thank you…

Announcement!!! Unveiling Our Organization Name & New Website

We shared on Facebook and our Instagram that there would be changes that would be happening soon. One of those changes was unveiling the name for our organization, and then presenting a brand new website. You’re probably thinking “Unveiling the name of the organization, you changed the name of MYGirls?” You’re not the only one thinking this.

Brief History of what Mentoring Young Girls aka MYGirls is: MYGirls is the name of our mentoring program for young girls between the ages 11-18. We never had an official name for our organization and decided to promote the program only.

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Fashion Friday!

Hi all and welcome to this weeks fashion Friday! I thought I would share with you an item I am loving for Spring – Crop Tops! As it is starting to get warmer (only slightly in England!) I am seeing more and more crop tops being worn, some looking lovely and some – not so nice. Forget the saying ‘less is more’ when it comes to clothing, it doesn’t count, there is no point in wearing a crop top and hot pants if you are going to stand on the street shivering! So I thought I would share with you some crop tops I am loving and how I would wear them! I have tried to keep the prices low, as always, and I have also approximately changed the prices from UK Pounds to US Dollars as I know a lot of you readers are American. I have done three outfits, from three stores, ASOS, Forever 21 and New Look, so lets begin!

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I just love this outfit for when it coming into spring, the bright yellow high waist shorts that aren’t showing any bum(!) are a lovely touch to the plain black off the shoulder cropped tee and I think paired with plain black sandals would just look perfect, I think the shorts are just enough so you don’t need statement shoes.

90’s Crop Top with Off the Shoulder Detail – ÂŁ8/$13

High Waist Linen Shorts – ÂŁ18.00/$29

Faculty Leather Flat Sandals – ÂŁ25.00/$41

Forever 21

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I love this funky long sleeve tee for these days that aren’t that warm, I think paired with a plain skater skirt and black pimsolls make for a perfect casual outfit.

Pucker Up Crop Top – ÂŁ7.99/$13

Classis Skater Skirt – ÂŁ8.25/$13

Classic Canvas Pimsolls – ÂŁ6.00/$10

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I think this would be perfect for when the evenings start to get warmer, this outfit would work well paired with a black skirt and black heels, but as I am trying to move away from wearing as much black I thought I would try pairing it with white! I thought this flowy butterfly crop top was just so cute, and the perfect amount of print to pair with a plain outfit.

Parisian Coral Butterfly Print Bralet Top – ÂŁ14.99/$24

White Wavy Textured Pencil Skirt – ÂŁ17.99/$29

Nude Leather Block Heel Platform Sandals – ÂŁ39.99/$66

I hope you have enjoyed this weeks Fashion Friday post, if there is anything you would like to know how I would style then please do let me know!

Bex  xoxo

Be on The Look out for This Week’s Posts….

This week you can look forward toward some awesome posts from our team like:

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Fashion Friday post

Dear Younger Me Recap

Giveaways

Events & Updates…

As we begin to change a few things around here & branch out in other areas in order to better assist girls that utilize our program and are supporters, things may look different or delayed. We’re just working on bettering our website as well as our organization. We thank you for the support.

Will you make yourself a priority?

Priority is defined as “a thing that is regarded more important than another.”  I have found that we are most willing to do for others than we are for ourselves.  We can offer words of encouragement to our friends, family and loved ones but often beat up on ourselves.  We are quick to be there when others need us but often are not there for ourselves. We often say “yes” to things we are asked to do not knowing that we are saying “no” to ourselves.

I encourage you to continue to do all that and more for others but don’t forget about yourself in the process.  I can imagine this may be difficult for some, especially if you aren’t used to it, but small changes are key.  Here are some things I do each day/each week in order to make myself a priority.

Will you make yourself a priority?

Each day…

I take time to read something motivational.  I also post “morning memo’s” on my IG (@ladystace)

I take time to listen to music that is good for the soul (Jason Nelson “nothing without you”)

I reflect on the positive moments and learn from the rest

Each week…

I take MYSELF on a date (movies, dinner, book store, nail salon, etc)

I do things I like to do (watch the food network, blog, cook, go for a drive)

When you make yourself a priority, when you fall in love with yourself, it allows you to be “full” enough to give to others.  You can’t give of yourself, if you are drained….

Fashion Friday – Celeb Fashion Icons

Welcome back to Fashion Friday guys!

Today I thought I would share with you some of my fashion style icons, I have chose my top four icons, and each of them are very different.

Firstly is Demi Lovato, she is so inspirational in both fashion and her person life, she has admitted everything she has been through and it has helped a lot of people and young girls realise that they are worth their life. I like how she doesn’t show too much skin and she really respects herself.

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Secondly is Kate Moss, I love her style and think she always looks so amazing. I dislike her personality and think she is a bad role model for young girls, however I will always love her style.

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Thirdly is Zoe Sugg, I’m not sure everyone will know her, she is a youtuber/blogger from England and I think she is just amazing. She looks so fabulous in anything, she really doesn’t take anything seriously and she proves how much you can achieve if you really put your head to it.

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Lastly is Mary-Kate Olsen, I have always loved the Olsen twins, I grew up watching their movies. Both twins are so fashionable, however I love Mary-Kate’s quirky style. She tends to wear a lot of black but always has something interesting added to the outfit.

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I hope you enjoyed this post, and let me know your style icons!

Bex  xoxo

We should all be feminists…

We were introduced to an excerpt of Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie on Beyonce’s song “Flawless.”  This excerpt really spoke to me because it is the truth, it is my truth!  I have met people who are shocked that I am 29 with no children not that I don’t want them.  I have been asked multiple times “when are you gonna have a baby?”   You begin to wonder why men and women aren’t taught the same messages, why are their double standards in life?  Why have the negative depictions of men and women we see on TV become the norm?

 

I believe it is my purpose in life to mentor young women.  To tell each of them that they can have their own thought

s, be in charge of themselves.  Have their own opinion. Be free.  Be firm.  That it is ok to strive to have a wonderful, loving marriage but to be able to also pursue their dreams.  I believe you can have it all as a woman.  

Do not allow anyone to limit you and please do not limit yourself, ever!

EVENT| Girl Talk *Fun at the Park* – Inland Empire

We would like to kick off our first event of the year with our girls in Banning on April 12th from 12PM-2PM. If you live in the Inland Empire and would like to join us come out! It is open for girls 11-18 years old. You can bring a friend, sister, cousin who is between those ages. In order to have great food, cool prizes, and material to give out to you all, you need to RSVP for this event.

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Fundraiser: Come Support Us By Shopping With Shop Closet GlamNoLabelz

We hope you all are doing well this week!

If you don’t follow us on Instagram or Facebook then you aren’t aware of the current fundraiser that our partners Shop Closet GlamNoLabelz aka ShopGNL has put on for us. They have added items to their site where you can purchase different accessories and clothing. All proceeds go toward our Care Package Program for girls and upcoming events (Girl Talk in April). We need your support.

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Fashion Friday

Welcome to the first of many ‘Fashion Fridays’, where I will be telling you what fashion items I have loved this week.

I should probably start with introducing myself, my name is Bex and I am the new blogger on this page, and I am so excited to get to know you all. I love everything fashion and beauty and I cannot wait to share my opinions with you! I also like to bargain hunt and won’t spend a stupid amount on anything that isn’t worth it, so I will share my finds with you!

So lets get into it. I am currently loving Forever 21, which is similar to a store we have in the UK called Primark. We have a few Forever 21 stores in the UK but it is mainly in the US, and I found my love for the store when I was last in New York. I’ve been searching online for my new favourite outfits for the transition between winter and spring, and the weather is starting to get slightly warmer (England’s weather is not good ever really, but still!). I usually go through the sale items as well as items on the main site as this is the best way to find deals, but I saw this skirt on the main site and thought I would share with you a few ideas on how to dress it up or dress it down. I have searched both the US and UK site to find prices in both US Dollars and UK sterling.

Tropical Dream Midi Skirt  (£10.50/$12.80) is my main item in this post, I just love the bright summery colours and I feel paired with the right accessories will be perfect for adding that bit of sunshine into the rainy days!
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Linked Elephant Pendant Necklace ÂŁ2.30/$3.80
Sleek Pointed Toe Flats ÂŁ11.90/$19.80
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Favorite Cutout Crop Top £10.50/$12.80
Luxe Chain-link Necklace ÂŁ5.307/$8.80
Refined D’Orsay Wedges £24.90/$29.80
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Modernist Net Crop Top £18.80/$22.80
Simply Chic Layered Chain Necklace ÂŁ5.90/$9.80
Studded Cowboy Booties £27.90/$32.80
Please let me know what you think of these outfits and feel free to ask any questions.
Bex  xoxo

MYGirls Will Host a Giveaway on Your Blog Site!

Mentoring Young Girls loves to give back! We give throughout different communities and we thought it would be cool to give here on the World Wide Web to our supporters. We’re looking for a blogger who has female readers that are between the age group 11-30. We tend to work with girls 11-18 and college girls as well, so we wanted to make it fair and realistic in what we do here. People love giveaways and what other way to thank your supporters than giving something away?

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Join Our Team!

We wanted to let you all know that we are looking for women to volunteer their time to our organization. We strive to give our best to girls and our supporters globally. In order to execute our goals and put action behind our mission we need a great team.

The following positions are open:

-Bloggers

-PR Members

-PR Manager

-Mentors

To get more information and to fill out our application please click the link JOIN OUR TEAM where you will be sent to the appropriate place

We look forward to hearing from you all!

2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Tiara,

DEAR TIARA….

YOU’RE IN COLLEGE NOW…YOU’RE NOT IN HIGH SCHOOL ANYMORE….WHEN YOU WERE IN GRADE SCHOOL…WITH BRACES, ACNE AND YOU WERE GETTING TEASED FOR BEING FAT… NOBODY GAVE ANY DAMN ABOUT WHETHER YOU HAD SEX OR NOT… BUT NOW… YOU HAVE THIS MAKEOVER… NOW EVERYONE WANTS TO KNOW THE LATEST NEWS…. AND REALLY IT ISN’T ANY…. YOU’RE ONLY 19… YOU’RE LEGAL.. BUT YOU’RE STILL NOT “GROWN” YOU’RE A KID… AND AS FAR AS YOU KNOW SEX IS FOR ADULTS AND NOT CHILDREN…YOU DIDN’T EVEN GET A TALK FROM YOUR MOM ABOUT SEX.. YOU NEVER GAVE HER ANY HINTS TO WONDER IF YOU DID IT OR NOT SO WHY SHOULD SHE CARE ANYWAY RIGHT??? YOU WERE PETRIFIED OF BOYS AS A CHILD…. YOU CRIED IF ONE WAS NEAR YOU OR YOU THREW SOMETHING AT THEM.

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Reminder: Get Your Dear Younger Me Letters in ASAP

Ladies, the deadline for open letters is Feb. 28th. We won’t be taking letters after that date so please get your letters sent to us. We will post any letters we receive on that date the first week of March. As we are transitioning into a new month that means our focus is shifting.

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Also, if you have participated and your letter has been posted here on our website, please email us a photo of yourself. No later than Feb. 28th as well.

If you would like to participate, please see the original post to sign up 2014 Campaign: Dear Younger Me…Signs Ups

 

2014 Campaign: Dear Younger Me…Sign Ups

It’s funny how when you’re young you want to grow up and be 18, 21 or 25 years old? Now that I’m 27 years old going on 28 on Feb. 18th, I sit back & think man, what was I in a rush for? This is not to say that I didn’t enjoy my younger years because I did, but the thought of wanting to be in a relationship, drink, go to clubs, move out, make my own decision which goes hand in hand with paying my own bills and so forth. Like really? What were we as young girls so in a rush to do? That time that we used to go against our parents will..

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2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Cathy…

Dear Younger Me:

You’ve always been excited by life! A free spirit by nature, you just want to run out and take the biggest bite out of life that you can. You are hungry for new experiences to live and to share. I know that you have so many wonderful plans for your life and I also know that you are in a hurry to get started. But before you run off, I want to share a few things with you. Don’t do anything without taking God with you! I know that you feel His presence with you, you always have but you tend to want to go before Him and at times without Him…DON’T DO IT!!! He only wants to guide you to the best places and people for you. He longs to give you everything your heart desires, just trust Him ok.

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2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Chrisselle…

Dear 15 year old Chrisselle,

I know what you’re going through, and I know it’s hard but I’ve got some things to tell you so please just listen. Don’t lock yourself in your room and ignore me, or write in your diary that nobody gets it, because I do. I really, really do.

You think that you need to grow up already, you think that you need to have lots of friends so that you’re not lonely, you think you need to be in a relationship so that you’re not alone and you feel like you don’t fit in… anywhere, never mind your clothes. You think you need all these things just to be happy, but trust me you don’t.

All you need to be happy is self-belief, true friends, real family and determination to make your dreams come true – because believe me you can. Heck, you already HAVE. If you only knew where you’re going to be in six years then you would laugh at what your thoughts on the world are at this moment.

You’re probably thinking to yourself “Yeah, well that’s great. But I don’t have any of THAT either!” well, honey, you’re wrong. You have some of the best friends that you could ever wish for, sometimes it may not feel like that, but trust me they are. They have their own stuff going on too, but that doesn’t mean that they’re not there for you or that they don’t love the bones of you. AS for family, every family has drama but as you get older you’re going to discover who is really there for you and who isn’t, and those who stick by you are some of the best human beings on this planet.

In a few years you’re going to meet people who are going to change your life, at times it won’t feel like it’s for the best, but in the long term it is. They’re going to make you stronger, wiser and braver than you ever thought you could be. You’re going to use these qualities to change other people’s lives and I guarantee you that that will be the best feeling in the world.

You’ll find love and loss love as you grow, but those people will impact your life in ways you never thought possible. Then one day when you think that you’re fine on your own, you’re going to meet someone who you never thought could exist. He’s perfect in every single way, and he’ll become your best friend, your lover, your rock and more importantly your future.

My message to you is to stop stressing just now. Enjoy these years of your life because soon you’ll be facing all the stresses of adulthood and wishing for these problems instead. Life gets better when you start living it, so start. You’re alive but you’re not living, that’s the only change you need to make right now. Make that change and everything else will follow.

Also, I love you. Mum loves you. Dad loves you. Your siblings love you. You’re going to find out that your best friend has been beside you since you were born in the shape of your annoying big sister.

Yours Faithfully,
Chrisselle Mowatt
22 years old.
www.Chrisselle.com

P.S. Stop thinking you’re ugly, worthless and need to make changes to your looks. You’re beautiful.

2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Brittany…

Dear Younger Me,

At first I was going to warn you about what is to come, and then I realized I would only be hurting you by doing that. It would cause you to be fearful, closed-off, maybe even sheltered and I know that you are not, along with anyone else for that matter, called to live in fear. The truth is, all of the hard times in life enhance perseverance, confidence, and character… and those things are things that, unfortunately, are and may continue to be rare qualities in the world. However, those things are what will cause you, eventually, to be a light in a world filled with darkness.

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2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Juaquina

If I could write a letter to my teenage years it would probably sounds something like this:

Dear Teenage self,

Aren’t we one and the same?

You are me…I mean I was you

And yet now there is this separation between us two

We are staring at each other face to face

Same ears, same nose, same hair, same race

And yet I don’t even recognize who I’m looking at

We are two completely different people, you and I

We see two different visions of the world although we’re both looking through the same eye

Two different reactions to his actions…same guy

Our ears hear two different things, but it’s the same lie

We even speak differently

Every other thing you utter is profanity

I choose to select my words a little bit more carefully

But I dare not judge you….for you are me.

I mean, I was you!

And I understand the way your heart was abused

Not just by guys, but by family and friends your heart was seduced

Tricked to believe that that decision wouldn’t leave your heart bruised

So mistake after mistake you continue to make

Ignorance isn’t bliss if your soul the devil takes

Puts it in a jail cell and traps you before you wake

And now you’re trying to figure out what kind of pill to swallow when your soul aches

When your body is filled with depression and hate

Giving up is easy and on death you wait

You are me?

No. I was you!

You see, you live in defeat while I live in victory

You follow others down their path of destruction

I blaze trails. I’m making history.

Yeah that’s cliché, but I’m breaking free

I thought we were one in the same

But you are NOT me.

Sincerely yours,

The Twenty year old me

Juaquina Carter|  www.Abstinenceandthecity.com

2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Undrea…

Dear Young Undrea,

They say that hindsight is 20/20, and it is.

Which is why I’m writing this letter to you, to encourage your vivacious little spirit and others like you.

You are such an outgoing and happy child, and you constantly surprise your other little friends with such affection and energy. I don’t want you to ever get tired of showing affection; even to those who don’t seem like they need it, because they do. Never allow the world to crush your smile.

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2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Lauren

Dear Younger Me,

The first thing I was to tell you is this, impossible is ONLY an opinion. As you move throughout your journey of life, you will have dreams and visions that you will get excited about without being sure how to get it done. Do not fret. When God gives you a vision, He will be sure to provide the provisions to make it possible. When you understand the importance of keeping God at the center of your life, those concepts of fear and limits will become non-existent and pointless chatter. You can be and will be whatever it is you desire.

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2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to LaShawn…

Dear Younger Me,

There are some many things that I know now that I wish I had knew when I was younger. Maybe I did but because I was being a stubborn little girl I failed to pay attention to things that I was being told by my mom or other adults in my life. You see yes I didnt grow up with my dad but I wish I would have understood that it shouldn’t have changed how I looked at other men or boys at the time. Here is just a few things that I wish I knew then.

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2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: Open Letter to Ashley…

Dear Ashley,

Did you know once you are an adult that you will have responsibilities that aren’t even fun! What comes with responsibilities is hard work. With hard work comes deadlines… With deadlines comes expectations… With expectations comes stress…You’ll do a lot of this throughout your life until you fully cast all your cares and worries to God in 2012.

Baby Ashley 🙂

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2014 Dear Younger Me Campaign: FAQs

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We’ve received different questions regarding our 2014 Campaign: Dear Younger Me (DYM) and we’re excited you’re curious about it!

-What’s the point of writing a letter to my younger me?

Sharing your open letter with others builds courage. It’s really a selfless action when you think about it. It can provide an outlet for discussions that may not occur any other time because you may be not want to share something like this with those close to you. It also allows you to reflect on your past and see the progress you’ve made since then. Great right!?

-What’s the campaign about?

This campaign was provided to offer a platform for women from all walks of life, ages, races, regions and so forth to share their story through their personal letter. It will allow us to connect with one another on a personal level if that is something you desire and would like to get out of this. Sharing your struggles, setbacks, downfalls, issues, great memories, lessons learned that will encourage younger girls or other women is what this is all about. Do you have the courage to set yourself free from your past? Are you willing to encourage a young girl to wait? Are you willing to stand up for what you believe in now in order to motivate someone else?

-How can I participate?

Go to our original post 2014 Campaign: Dear Younger Me and leave your information in the box where it asks you if you’re interested in participating in our campaign. [Below is an EXAMPLE of what it will look like. It is NOT the actual space but a photo].

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Have any other questions, please leave them below in the reply box or you can email us @ mentoringyg@gmail.com

Can’t wait to read your letters!

Happy New Year!

We would like to wish everyone a veryImage

Cheers to MYGirls for operating for two years.

Thank you to everyone that has supported or contributed in some way.

More lives to help and living our purpose…

MYGirls Care: Depression -Discussion

PARENTS: Do you know what’s going on in your child’s life?

Are they a bully?
Do they suffer from depression?
Do you know your child as well as you think?
Communication is key!

MENTORS: How do you assist with helping youth who deal with depression, bi-polar, and suicide?

Also please leave links & names of programs/organizations you work for/with?

If you deal with any of the above, please email us.
We Care ❤

Care Packages| NOW Sent Throughout The United States…

GIVEAWAY CONTEST: MYGirls & Pretty Girls For Change

Hello beautiful people!
I have some great news for all of you young ladies and women out there working hard toward your goals and embrace change!
MYGirls has reached out to a new & fabulous organization and movement called Pretty Girls for Change to do a giveaway contest. Precious who is the founder of this movement is dedicated toward uplifting, inspiring, and working with others to be a better individual.
MYGirls is all for wanting positive change in our daily lives as well as communities.
What better way to gear some of you up and encourage you all to continue to press forward toward that goal?
How will we do that you ask? By giving away great prizes!!!
Prizes: 1 winner will win a Pretty Girls for Change t-shirt & the 2nd winner will win trendy knuckle rings.
Below are details on how you can enter our collaborative giveaway contest

Question: What is one positive change you would like to see in your community, and how would you get involve in order to make this change happen?
RULES & GUIDELINES:
-Must live in the U.S.
-1 entry per person (by answering the question on Mentoring Young Girls Facebook page HERE)
2 winners will be chosen
Random drawing
Women & young girls (get your parents permission) who have LIKED both FB pages (Mentoring Young Girls & Pretty Girls for Change) can enter.
Entry Deadline May 13th need to made on MYGirls Facebook page
-Winners announced May 17th via Facebook
Good Luck!

Connect & Keep in touch

Mentoring Young Girls links…
Pretty Girls for Change links…
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Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month: Red Flags by (@InglewoodDiva) Kahlelah

When we talk about red flags, we usually think of visual alarms.  We typically think of the clear (and oftentimes, not so clear) indicators of potential dangers we are bound to face once we ignore the alarms.  Red flags are life’s way of saying “stop,” “no,” and “don’t.”  However, when we are young, we still tend to “go,” say “yes,” and simply “do.”

Red flags in life’s various situations are often overlooked, or even ignored.  Partly, because we are in disbelief that what we have invested our time & energy into, is practically unraveling at the seams, and crumbling before our very eyes.  Mostly, because we are in denial.  We see, hear, and feel what is going on, yet we consciously deny all evidence of danger, for fear of having to face the fact of a temporary bout of failure.  Besides, when we are taught at young ages to always be and do our best, who wants to admit to failure!?
Well, instead of admitting failure . . . why not PREVENT it?  Prevention is the best method of saving ourselves from failure.  If we practice prevention, we protect ourselves from sinking into the depths of a failed plan, a crumbling foundation, an unraveled seam . . . in this case, a bad relationship.  We protect ourselves from the oncoming hurt, hate, pain, regret, and we save ourselves from having to forgive ourselves (which can be a difficult task in itself).
What I want to share with you, beautiful Young Girls, are various occurrences classified as “Red Flags” in your relationships.  If you remember my post “Love:  The Blindside,” you may recall seeing the 8 red flags I listed when describing my toxic, abusive relationship of 2 1/2 years.  I would like to further expand with more indicators of an abusive relationship, so that you all are aware of the more subtle forms of abuse:
1)  The Blame Game
Your significant other will manage to blame every problem on you.  Nothing you do is correct, enough, or even satisfactory.  Even problems that have nothing to do with you, become your fault.  Why?  Because blaming the other person will keep him/her with a constant desire to please.  As women, we are often raised with a subconscious yearning to please our mates.  We aren’t happy unless THEY are happy.  We will sacrifice our happiness to ensure the happiness of others, often to our detriment.  Does you mate blame you for just about everything?  Are you a victim of The Blame Game?
2)  Lack of Recognition
We all want to be recognized for our hard work, our effort, our diligence in doing something right, or bringing a hard task to completion.  Yet, in this case, your significant other cannot seem to compliment you for your achievements.  For you beautiful Young Girls, it could be anything from an excellent test score to a well-coordinated outfit.  Your significant other will unceasingly find a discrepancy, even when 100% is staring him/her right in the face.  Does your mate fail to recognize your achievements?  Are you a victim on Lack of Recognition?
3)  Problem Starter/Problem Solver
This red flag can work two ways.  In one way, your significant other cannot seem to solve problems, and looks to you to handle all decisions; if you cannot come up with an acceptable solution, then you become part of the problem (this can coincide with red flag #1).  In the other way, your significant other exercises his/her power by keeping control of all decision-making in any given situation; if you do not or cannot comply with his/her decision(s), then you become part of the problem.  Are you unable to make conscious decisions, or forced to make decisions, against proper judgement?  Are you a victim of Problem Starter/Problem Solver?
4)  Belittling Communication
Your significant other cannot seem to speak to you with a more kind delivery.  Everything out of his/her mouth towards you is belittling, dehumanizing, hurtful, embarrassing, sarcastic, and just plain rude.  Much of the negative speech is said in front of others, in efforts of enforce whatever visible control he/she has, or wants to have, which of course renders you powerless in the eyes of the onlookers.  Do the words from your significant other sting with intent?  Are you a victim of Belittling Communication?
I ask the questions at the end of each red flag, because I have experienced all 4, but unfortunately there was no one around to point out the signs.  Hopefully my asking the questions will open your eyes to potential danger in your relationships.  
Parents, if you are reading this along with your beautiful Young Girls, please understand that we as adults are not the only ones who succumb to toxically abusive relationships, and physical evidence are not the only indicators.  The subject is no longer taboo.  Our beautiful Young Girls, sadly, are also susceptible to involving themselves in detrimental situations, and because abuse is not always physical, we must pay close attention to the more subtle forms.
I sincerely hope this helps you to identify if there are any red flags within your relationships.  If there are, then it is time to reevaluate yourself, your significant other, what role he/she plays in the presence of these red flags, and your level of genuine happiness in the relationship.  Know when to hold, when to fold, and when to walk away.  It is never too late.

To contact me, please visit www.facebook.com/LelahGTheMogul, or www.twitter.com/InglewoodDiva. You can also email me at lelahgoodine@gmail.com.

Kahlelah Goodine
Ms. Inglewood United States 2012 (Ms. Photogenic)
www.misscaus.com

Operation Holiday Give Back: Girl Group Homes & Women Shelters…

Here we are another year! Blessed to be here & able to help & support others. This December would have been our 2nd Annual Holiday Clothes Drive. We have decided to reach out to different girl group homes as well as women shelters who are in need of clothing in the Inland Empire area (Southern Cali).

We have boxes of clothes from our personal closets as well as from our previous drive. We do not want these items to go to waste.

If you would like to contribute, contact us. This year we will not be handling the clothing as we have done previously, but we will give you all the information you may need to donate to different organizations we plan on helping out.

If you’re in the Inland Empire & know of a girls group home or shelter that could use clothing, please email us: MentoringYG@gmail.com 


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"Love: The Blindside" by @InglewoodDiva

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Love is a beautiful thing. Love is a blessing, providing the “warm & fuzzy” feeling inside that we always talk about. Love is a goal, that happy hearts cherish when accomplished, and heavy hearts long for when dropped out of the race. Love is everything that your parents display (if/when together), that your friends show (which may make you a little jealous, even if it’s puppy love), that music audibly expresses (when R&B was popular). Love is indeed beautiful song, with sultry sound.

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