GU4AP| Join Our Team! It Doesn’t Matter Where You Are…

Good afternoon GU4AP Supporters!

We wanted to come to you today and share the different volunteer opportunities that we have currently that need to be filled before January 2015. As some of you may know we are partner with a women’s network called Queens Unite Everywhere in which caters to women 19 & up on a business and personal aspect. Check out their website and blog for more information about what they do and offer. Membership is free so mothers if you’re interested in getting involved in something positive and uplifting in which your young girl, niece or mentee will graduate into. We want you to have that support system.


Girls Unite 4 A Purpose is an organization and brand that caters to women and young girls. Mentoring Yong Girls is a mentoring program for girls 11-18 years old. We are partnered with Queens Unite Everywhere which is a fairly new online network for women anywhere in the world.

Mentoring Young Girls

-Assistant Director (Must live in the Inland Empire –Cali)

-Mentors (Must live in the Inland Empire –Cali)

-Street team (women and youth girls)

-Care Package Assistant

-Admin staff(Must live in the Inland Empire –Cali)

Email: for more information or to apply

Queens Unite Everywhere


-Event Leader

-Event members

-Blogger/Writer Admin

Email: for more information or to apply.

We thank you for your support please help us meet these goals by either dedicating your time or sharing this information with others who may be interested.

College Post Check In



Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you all are doing well! I hope that you all are enjoying your first semester at college and that you have become adjusted to the college life. I just wanted to check in with you all and to encourage you all to keep pressing and keep pushing through. Yes, being in college you get to experience the time of your life. But on the other hand, it can be a bit overwhelming along with stressful. I hope that you all have been checking out the previous post in learning how to deal and cope with managing stress while in college and learning how to develop effective studying skills when it comes to testing taking for your midterms and finals. We only have two more weeks left in this month and November and the Thanksgiving Holiday will be here before we know. Then it will be time to prepare and take final exams come December then the first half of the semester will be in the books. I hope that you all are taking the time in learning about yourselves as well as embracing and finding out who you are. This is the best time to find your path and find what you are passionate about. No one is expecting you to be perfect or have a perfect GPA or pass every test, exam, or quiz. Don’t let others have this high expectation of you and don’t put that on yourself. Embrace and enjoy your time in college because it is preparing you for the real world. I hope you all have a great and blessed week!!


Be Blessed


Studying Tips For Midterms/Final Exams


Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you ladies are doing well. In this post I wanted to share and talk to you about some studying tips for midterms and final exams.  You’re already almost halfway through this term of classes, and that can only mean one thing MIDTERMS!!!!  When it comes to preparing and taking these exams it can be particularly intimidating for first year college students. Even sufficiently prepared students experience test taking anxiety. When it comes time to take midterms or final exams, it can be a very stressful time in where many students experience lack of sleep and build up so much stress and worry about being prepared for these exams. But as always, it is important to remember to NOT stress out over anything! If you don’t do well its okay you have another chance to make it up or a professor could drop your lowest grade in order to accumulate your final grade for the semester. So here are some helpful studying tips to get you prepared for midterm week and finals.


Many comprehensive final exams and midterms include some of the same questions from the tests and quizzes taken throughout the term. Therefore, it’s important to review the questions and answers from these tests and quizzes.


You can create cards to study important terms and concepts, formulas, and even quotes from reading assignments.

Study groups can be great resource when studying for midterms and finals. You and your study partners can help each other with difficult concepts or problems; you can compare notes, and help each other identify the correct answers from past quizzes and tests. Each student can bring in two practice questions and the group can work together to answer the questions and review the accompanying material. Study groups can be helpful but make sure that the group stays on track and you have accurate information.

Friends and roommates can be helpful in preparing for exams. A simple way to review for an exam and check you understanding of the material is to practice explaining the concepts to a friend or roommate. If you are able to explain a concept or formula to a friend, chances are you understand the material and will be able to address the information on an exam.

These are just some examples that can be of assistance to you in getting prepared for midterms and finals. Create your own study pattern that works for you and in a way that you understand in order to retain the information. But remember to not over do it and not to stress out! Ask for help when needed and do the best that you can.

Be Blessed


MYGirls: Let’s Resume Next Friday . . .

Hey there, bright young girls!!


*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

We will resume on Friday, October 10, 2014.  For your reading pleasure, refer back to the previous MYGirls blog topics.

And I hope to see some of you here, tomorrow morning:  2014TS

Have a lovely weekend, young girls!!

–Kahlelah, MYGirls

MYEvents: Thursday, October 2, 2014 – Wednesday, October 8, 2014



Hey there, bright young girls!!

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*


MYEvents will list all upcoming events.  They will either be free & open to the community, by RSVP, or by ticket purchase.  If you see an event listed, YOU’RE INVITED!!



Saturday, October 4, 2014 – 


Inspirational community leaders will come together with Charlotte’s Korner, Inc., to encourage, empower, and uplift our youth, as various issues concerning our teens will be discussed.  CLICK HERE for more information, or how to become a volunteer, vendor, or guest speaker.  (I will be one of the guest speakers, so please come in support of GU4AP!)



Stylists from various places will come together to battle for 1st Place.  Come to experience the fusion of fashion and fun.  The perfect “Mommy & Me” Day!! Visit HERE for more information.



Thursday, October 16, 2014 – 


ATTENTION ALL PARENTS, this one’s for you.  Fashion models and designers from across America will gather together for a night of glitz, glam, and good entertainment!  Bring two canned goods to help with the LA Runway Food Drive!!  Email for more information.



Saturday, October 18, 2014


Meet wonderful spiritual women as they gather together to examine & tackle stereotypes, lift the burdens of limitation, and offer a insight into the life challenges that women face on a daily basis.  REGISTER NOW to catch Early Bird registration.



Friday, November 14th, 2014 – 


Dynamic leaders will be honored and celebrated on this night of wonder.  SEE INFO Here for sponsorship packages.






FREE!!  Parenting Classes for Africans, African Americans, and Caribbeans.
Unfortunately NO court- or D.C.F.S.-ordered clientele will be accepted.
Call (323) 777-3120 for more information.

Brought to you by the Coalition of Mental health Professionals, Inc.
9219 S. Broadway Ave., Los Angeles, CA 90003



Showroom G is a creative talent firm geared towards pushing your brand out to the community, in the most elaborate ways.  Come see a weekly showcase of awesome designers who work hard to make you look good!  Click HERE for more information.



Staying in the know with what’s going on in the community, helps us to stay connected to each other. and keep our youth with an optimistic mindset.  We must work together for the good of our world, our countries, our states, our nations, our cultures, our communities, our neighborhoods, our families . . . and ourselves.  For we are all “family.”  Fellow members of the human race.  We need each other more than we might know.

Share these events with your families.  And if there are any events that you know of and would like to share with MYGirls, please contact me, and I will list them.  Let’s get involved, young girls!!


-Kahlelah, MYGirls

Managing Stress While In College

images (6)


Greetings and Blessings!!

I hope you all are doing well! I hope that you are getting into the swing of things while being in school. I think for most colleges/universities Homecoming is coming up within the next weeks of October. I hope you all take in the activities for the weekend and attend the Homecoming game! It’s really a great experience during Homecoming week. In this post I wanted to share and talk to you about how to manage stress while in school. Dealing with and managing stress while in college can be a tough and difficult task to do. From classes and bad professors to relationships and time management, the stress of college life always remains present. So what exactly is stress?

Stress is defined as a response to a demand that is placed upon you. Without some stress, people would not get a lot done. That extra burst of adrenaline that helps you finish your final paper, perform well in sports, or meet any challenge is positive stress. It is a short-term physiological tension and added mental alertness that subsides when the challenge has been met, enabling you to relax and carry on. Responses to stress can be physical, such as a headache; emotional, such as fear or sadness; and mental, such as increased anxiety. If you cannot return to a relaxed state, then the stress becomes negative. The changes in your body (increased heart rate, higher blood pressure and muscle tension) start to take their toll, often leading to mental and physical exhaustion and illness. Too much stress can cause problems and affect our health, productivity and relationships. So here are a few tips to learn how to keep your stress in check and how to relax when it gets to be too much.


Stressed or relaxed.


  1. Don’t Stress About Being Stressed When you’re feeling stressed, you feel like you’re on edge and everything is barely being held together. Don’t beat yourself up too badly about it! It’s all normal, and the best way to handle stress is to not get more stressed about being stressed.
  2. Sleep/Relaxation Getting more sleep can help your mind refocus, recharge, and re-balance. Sometimes, a good night’s sleep can be all you need to hit the ground running amidst a stressful time.
  3. Food Intake Similar to your sleep habits, your eating habits may have gone by the wayside when you started school. Think about what and when you’ve eaten over the past few days. You may think your stress is psychological, but you could also be feeling physical stress if you’re not fueling your body appropriately with the necessary nutrients.
  4. Set Some Quiet Time  When was the last time you had some quality, quiet time alone? Personal space for those in college rarely exists.. Find a few moments of peace and quiet with no cell phone, roommates, or crowds might be just what you need.
  5. Social Time You could be stressed because you’re being too focused on getting things done. Don’t forget that your brain is like a muscle, and even it needs a break every once in a while! Take a break and see a movie. Grab some friends and go out dancing.  Take the bus and hang out off campus for a few hours. Having a social life is an important part of your college experience, so don’t be afraid to keep it in the picture when you’re stressed.
  6. Distance You may be handling your own problems and trying to help others around you. While this can be nice for them, check in and be honest with yourself about how your helpful demeanor may be causing more stress in your life. It’s okay to take a step back and focus on yourself for a little while, especially if you are stressed and your academics are at risk. After all, how can you keep helping others if you’re not even in a state to help yourself? Figure out which things are causing you the most stress and how you can take a step back from each. And then, most importantly, take that step.

These are just a few tips that can be of help to you in dealing and managing stress while in college. If you are feeling too much pressure then go seek help from your campuses counseling center. It is okay to ask for help no one expects you to have it all together all the time. Sometimes you just need a break in order to regroup. Hope you all find this post helpful and useful.


Be Blessed


MYGirls: Let’s Talk About Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 2: Competition, and “Frienemies”)

*~ MYEvents will run every Thursday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*

*~MYGirls Blog Series will run every Friday evening at 6:00pm, Pacific Standard Time. ~*


Why hello, lovely young girls!!

Hopefully, by now, you all have been able to follow the MYGirls Blog Series  These blog entries, along with suggested reads from @, @, and @, are here for your viewing pleasure, as well as to provide insight and tips on how to be successful in school, build & maintain friendships, improve on home-based routines and responsibilities, and overall navigate through life in general.  We bloggers speak to you from experience, to both inspire and prepare you for what’s to come in the near (and distant future).

So far within the MYGirls Blog Series, we have covered Social Media Etiquette, Appearance & Personal Hygiene (broken into two parts), Academics, and  Leadership & Self-Esteem (Part 1).  Today we will discuss Part 2 of the Leadership & Self-Esteem topic:  Competition & “Frienemies.”

teen-girls-s22-photo-of-competing-sisters By now, young girls, you should all be well-established in your classes, have developed great acquaintanceship with your teachers, joined clubs & organizations . . . maybe even a spirit squad!  But most definitely, you all should have begun friendships with your peers.  Some of these friendships may end up being temporary, even though they are begun with the goal of them lasting after high school, well into adulthood.

We choose our friends for many reasons.  As stated in Let’s Talk About Appearance & Personal Hygiene (Part 1:  Personal Hygiene), [with our friends, we are] sharing commonalities like favorite colors, favorite “girly” products (lip gloss, sweet-smelling lotions & body sprays, hair pins, etc), favorite courses & teachers, mutual friends, likes & dislikes, and the list goes on.  Much of our self-esteem comes from the influence of our friends.  To go deeper, we choose our friends based on how they make us feel when we are around them.  A good friend will make us laugh, comfort us when we are hurt, congratulate us for our achievements, encourage us, uplift us, and most importantly, support us.  A good friend helps us to discover ourselves and allows us to be ourselves, accepting us for who we are without casting judgment.


A good friend will push you forward, to help you reach your highest potential.  A good friend wants to see you win, even if it means she temporarily loses.  And she wants to see you win, without jealousy.   A good friend respects you in a leadership role, sometimes more so than those not considered friends who are under your leadership.  Young girls, do your friends support you?  Are they genuinely happy when you win something, especially if you are competing against each other?  Do they feel as though your friendships are mere bouts of competition?


There are several different ways you can evaluate your friendships; I would like to concentrate on 3 of them:

  • Accomplishments – say you made the Honor Roll, made captain of the basketball team, or earned the position of student body President . . . do your friends congratulate you, or brush it off as if it weren’t as big as something major that they have achieved?
  • Information – say you have the same class as your friends, and you are out of school for the day due to illness . . . do your friends share their class notes with you and inform you of any homework assignments that are due, or do they keep it to themselves which will put you at risk of a lowered grade?
  • Opportunity – say auditions for the school play are approaching, and your friends find out before you do . . . do they inform you of the upcoming date(s), or do they keep it to themselves in hopes you won’t get a shot at showcasing your talents?

If your friends cannot congratulate and support you in your accomplishments, share important information with you, or pass along a great opportunity to you, chances are you may have befriended frienemies.


27cityroom-wrestling-blog480 Sometimes we find that those whom we consider to be our friends, are our enemies in disguise.  Thus, “frienemies.”  A frienemy is someone who is nice, sweet, and friendly at first, in hopes that she keeps us close.  But because a frienemy thrives off of having someone around to validate them, she will keep us close to purposely turn us into her unwilling competitor.  She always wants to be better than us, so she will find ways to place us in an ‘us-versus-them’ situation.  Over time, a frienemy will eventually become your full-fledged enemy.


Young girls, it is very important that we are careful and mindful when we select our friends.  We must choose friends who bring out the best in us . . . and expect nothing less.  Remember, our friends are reflections of us:  we are the company we keep . . . we are who we hang out with.  It is important that YOU are also the humorous, comforting, congratulatory, encouraging, uplifting, and supportive friend that you aim to attract.  It’s okay to have a friend to win something over you.  It’s okay that your weakness might be her strength.  It’s okay that she might make a better class president . . . you might make a better team captain.  We all have our own strengths and weaknesses.  We all have areas in which we make great leaders.  We are equal to our friends, but not always identical, and that is perfectly fine!  Do not let that discourage you, young girls.

We are all winners together, even if only one takes the medal! AR-706209459



Next week’s blog:  Health (Part 1:  Diet)



-Kahlelah, MYGirls